Post # 1
I have a friend who recently got engaged and is planning to have her wedding in October of this year about a month after my due date. This wouldn’t be much of a concern except that I live in Phoenix and the wedding is in Philadelphia.
My gut instinct is that trying to make the trip isn’t realistic. I feel terrible though, because she’s a good friend who traveled for my wedding. I don’t think I really want to travel with my baby that young and soon after giving birth. It also doesn’t seem like I could really travel without the baby that soon if I’m breastfeeding. I’m a first time mom so I’m just not sure what to expect. Should I try to make it work so that I can go or would that be really difficult? Honestly, money is also going to be really tight at that time between medical bills and me losing a large portion of my paycheck when I’m on FMLA. What do you think?
Post # 2
I wouldn’t go. I have a 7 week old and we can’t even go out to lunch reliably, let alone fly across the country. Also, your baby won’t get his/her vaccines until 8 weeks and you really shouldn’t be flying with her/him until she/he gets vaccinated.
Post # 3
garnet113 : I wouldn’t go. Too many unknowns=stress. Send a nice gift.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t plan on it either. You never know what will happen. My DS was born 11 days late and then I had an emergency C-sections. That means 1 month after my due date was only 2 weeks after his birth and there was no way I was going anywhere 2 weeks after a C-section…
Post # 5
As a new mom, I’d definitely skip it. Too many unknowns. And what if you go past your due date? Maybe your baby will be even younger (like 2 weeks).
Post # 7
Thank you everyone. This makes me feel better and not like I’m being an overly paranoid first time mom.
Post # 8
Skip it. If she is a truly a good friend she will understand.
Post # 9
I had a friend who was excited to go to my wedding (and who I was excited to come to mine), but I was actually the first to notice before she did that our wedding is just a few weeks after she’s due. I pointed it out and said that I completely understand, and congratulations. While I’m sad she won’t be there, I’d feel awful if she actually inconvenienced herself in that way to show up. I think in general a good friend shouuld feel that way.
Post # 10
I would take a pass of it. For a few reasons:
1) You’ll be a brand new mom, with a newborn, so many people find those first few weeks completely overwhelming. You basically have a tiny human, you need to keep alive, that can’t communicate in anything other than crying.
2) You don’t know at this point whether baby will be in any sort of routine or schedule
3) You will have limited finances due to having just had a baby.
4) You will be exposing baby top every single bug and germ in the world. Baby won’t even have had their first real shots. Airports, airplanes, hotels and weddings are full of sick people. Dealing with a newborn is bad, dealing with a sick newborn is sooooo much worse.
I vote send a gift, give your friend a call and let her know you’ve RSVPed No and this is why. But you’d love to fly out and take them to dinner to celebrate their marriage and see their photos and hear all about it from her, once baby is a bit older.
Post # 11
We are getting married in just over 4 weeks. We have a friend driving 5 hours to get to our wedding with her baby which will be 5 weeks old. It is her 2nd baby but she is coming.
Post # 12
I would not have been up for that one month post partum.
Plus I just wouldn’t want my baby around that many people so young.
Post # 13
I went to a friends wedding 1 mo pp (and was a bridesmaid) but it was only a 30m drive and I brought the baby and my husband and parents were also there (it was May). I would pass on this situation for many reasons. And my first baby was an easy baby who really never cried. My second baby I wouldn’t have brought him anywhere at 1mo old as he was colicky.
Post # 14
garnet113 : I wouldn’t even consider it to be honest. That’s a long flight and you might not (i.e. probably won’t) be feeling up to it. At that age the baby will still be eating every 2-3 hours (and that’s start to start and if the baby is a slow nurser could take 30-45 minutes each session) and unless you’re super comfortable nursing in public (I am but I know not everyone is) you will spend half the party away from all the other guests anyways. I had a friend try to guilt me into going to his out-of-state adults only wedding 6 weeks after giving birth but I stood firm that it wasn’t happening. I was not feeling up to it and even if she was invited (which she wasn’t) I didn’t want a whole party full of people touching my baby before she was vaccinated.
Post # 15
I would never travel by airplane with a one month old unless it was absolutely necessary. I honestly wouldn’t consider going for one second.