Friend's Wedding and Newborn

posted 1 month ago in Babies
Post # 16
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2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If your friend is happy to have you make the decision at the last minute then you can wait and see. But personally I wouldn’t go. 

Post # 17
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326 posts
Helper bee

Due dates are just predictions – and generally, they are off. My second child was 10 days late. At several weeks postpartum, there was no way I would have been able to travel cross-country with a newborn. October is also the start of colds and coughs – I wouldn’t bring a newborn on an airplane. I don’t think it’s realistic for you to go to this wedding.

Post # 18
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4090 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Nope- I would save the money of the plane ticket and just send a nice gift. I wouldn’t even consider attempting to make that trip happen. And your friend may have come to your wedding (and that was great of her) but unless she did it with a newborn baby, the circumstances are completely different and cannot be compared.

Congratulations on your baby!

Post # 19
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2121 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

No way.. I have two children.. the first time I travelled with either of them was at 2-3months after they’d had their first shots. Not to mention the fact that during the first 6 weeks post-partum you’re bleeding, leaking milk, underslept, dealing with hormones.. it can be a beautiful time (and it definitely was with my second baby especially) but there’s no way I would put myself and my baby through a trip like that for anyone.

Post # 20
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2078 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

garnet113 :  I missed a cousin’s wedding that was 3 weeks after my Dirty Delete was born, it too was in another state (7 hr drive away). It sucks but I would not want to travel with a month old newborn. A month post-partum you’ll be engorged, leaking milk, and blood still coming out from birth. And if you end up needing a c-section (like I did) you’ll be recovering from major abdominal surgery still. I would appologize to your friend but let her know it just isn’t feasible for you to travel to her wedding that far post-partum with a month old newborn.

Post # 21
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Busy bee

Yea, send a nice gift. If she is a good friend, she will understand. A really good friend of mine missed my wedding which was a week before her due date. Months in advance I told her not to worry about coming to my wedding which would have been a 2 hours drive for her. Safety of her and the baby trumps any wedding. 

Post # 22
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592 posts
Busy bee

If you feel like you really want go, then you’ll have to make the call after you have the baby. DS was a week late, in the NICU for a week and I had a Really bad UTI that made it to my kidneys 9 days PP – after all of that I felt good enough to fly with him when he was 5 weeks on a 2 hr flight and take a 2 hr ferry ride. I didn’t do it alone (that’s just crazy) and was super paranoid so I had hand sanitzer and Lysol wipes and sanitized everything before sitting down. He mostly slept and didnt catch anything – my biggest concern wouldn’t be the flight but staying in a hotel. My OB and GP both said that flying would be equivalent to riding the bus or being in a mall for a few hours and said as long as I wasn’t travelling somewhere without a hospital I’d be fine. If you can afford to travel at the last minute you could make it work if you feel good but if you can’t I’d decline. There are so many variables that you won’t know about until you go into labour – it’s really a wait and see situation. 

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