(Closed) Friend’s Wedding – Did Not RSPV To Mine What To Do?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I Send A Gift?
    No, she is being inconsiderate. : (22 votes)
    42 %
    Yes, be the better person. : (13 votes)
    25 %
    Send something, but send something small. : (17 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5479 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think if you sent a shower gift, you shouldn’t have to send a wedding gift as well.  Etiquette is not a “tit for tat” situation, so don’t adjust your behavior to reflect hers.  Be the bigger person, RSVP, but maybe send a nice card with well wishes in it since you’ve already sent a gift.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Gift giving is not, and should not be tit for tat.  If you weren’t having your own wedding, would you send her a gift if you could not attend her’s?  Use that to answer your own question.  It really doesn’t matter whether or not someone gave you a gift or attended your events.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3302 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would send a card. No gift, you already gifted her, no need to do it again especially since it sounds like she didn’t even respond to you to say thanks.

    Post # 7
    Member
    581 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I agree with previous posters, don’t not send one because she didn’t. But if I hadn’t received a thank note, I wouldn’t send another gift. 

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