Post # 1
I was invited to a friend’s wedding a week before mine that’s out of town and won’t be able to attend. We also invited each other to our showers. I could not attend hers, but RSPV’d right away and sent a nice gift. She did not RSPV to mine and did not send a gift. I RSPV’d no to her wedding, but she did not RSPV to my wedding at all (no gift so far) so I’m wondering, do I send a wedding gift at all? If I should, how much should I spend?
Post # 3
I think if you sent a shower gift, you shouldn’t have to send a wedding gift as well. Etiquette is not a “tit for tat” situation, so don’t adjust your behavior to reflect hers. Be the bigger person, RSVP, but maybe send a nice card with well wishes in it since you’ve already sent a gift.
Post # 4
Thanks for the advice! I was going to either just send a nice card or card with some kind of monetary gift smaller than what I would usually send someone. I usually give $150/175–I was thinking to buy an additional $50 gift or something off of the registry. I already spent $35 w/ shipping on the shower gift.
Post # 5
Gift giving is not, and should not be tit for tat. If you weren’t having your own wedding, would you send her a gift if you could not attend her’s? Use that to answer your own question. It really doesn’t matter whether or not someone gave you a gift or attended your events.
Post # 6
I would send a card. No gift, you already gifted her, no need to do it again especially since it sounds like she didn’t even respond to you to say thanks.
Post # 7
I agree with previous posters, don’t not send one because she didn’t. But if I hadn’t received a thank note, I wouldn’t send another gift.
Post # 8
Her shower was 2 weeks ago and I didn’t receive a thank you, at least not yet. Thanks for the help ladies, I think I’ll just send a card.