(Closed) Friends who overstay their welcome…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What should I do?
    Keep quiet : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Say something to Moocher in a joking manner : (5 votes)
    11 %
    Tell husband he has to have a little chat with Moocher : (38 votes)
    83 %
  • Post # 3
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think this is territory your husband has to deal with, unfortunately.  He’s not your friend, and I think it could get very awkward for your husband if you confronted his friend.  However, maybe if you’re husband wasn’t willing to directly say something, you can do things that make it obvious WITHOUT the confrontation?  Ask the waitress to only put your share of the bill on your credit card…or separate checks!  Straight out ask Moocher to bring beer.  Or have husband invite him over, but let him know that you have plans on Sunday morning. 

    I just don’t think it’s your place..but I TOTALLY understand why you are frustrated!  Moocher needs to get some manners!

    Post # 5
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    2547 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    lol, I’m sorry but this made me laugh. The way you wrote it was great! What would I do? I would probably allow him to come over for desert and wine, and stay the night., because your husband already invited him. BUT I would also telly our husband to let him know ahead of time, that this time he must leave in the morning because you guys already have plans! And that should do it!

    Post # 6
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    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would say, “hey your a mooch” but I would be very clear on asking him to bring stuff when he comes over. 

    “We would love to have you over for thanksgiving dessert, can you bring chocolate chip cookies”. 

    “The game is on tonight but I’m not drinking so if you want beer, can you stop and grab some?”

    Post # 8
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    4354 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Ugh my SO has a moocher too! Finally with some encouragement he talked to him and now when he shows up, it’s with beer in hand.. which he drinks a few of and leaves the remainder behind as a thanks for us hosting him. MUCH better situation! I think you and Darling Husband need to chat about it and he needs to get the courage to talk to his friend especially if it’s causing tension between you two.

    Post # 10
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Jerseygirl23:  I totally understand.  My Fiance is totally non-confrontational as well.  And sometimes just socially awkward.  I have to sometimes force him to do or ask or talk to people when its not really my place to.  Generally he cooperates…but I guess not always.  Good luck!

    Post # 11
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    1288 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

    Ahh I feel so bad for you! I’d hate having someone over all the time, especially spending the night.

    I guess you could try doing little hints like not having any beer the next time he comes over, making sure you guys have plans for a certain time later in the day so he has to leave, etc. But honestly, I would just speak up myself and say we have crap to do, we’ll call you a cab..

    Post # 14
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    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I like the idea of asking him to at least bring something when he comes over. Like his own 12 pack perhaps…

    Post # 16
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    1995 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Maybe try the tactic next time he comes over (perhaps before the holidays) where you don’t have any snacks or beer in the house.  “We’re out if you want to pick some up on the way over that’s fine.” 

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