- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Ok… So my husband has this friend, we’ll call him Moocher, lol.
Husband will invite Moocher over from time to time and when he gets to our apartment he plops down on the sofa (in my spot may I add), helps himself to beer, eats all our food and will NEVER leave!
We have a spare bedroom, so if we go out in the City or have a few drinks at home he always stays, which is fine because I wouldn’t want anyone to drink and drive but he will sleep until Noon and when he finally gets up he plops himself back down on our couch. We have gone so far as to wake up, get ready and when he wakes up tell him we have things to do because he just doesn’t get it… On top of that, he never brings anything when he comes over and half the time if we are all on the same tab he lets us pick up the bill, sometimes he’ll leave the tip.
My husband is one of the nicest human beings I have ever known and he’s just not the confrontational type, where as I am. I want to tell Moocher to get a grip and start fending for himself but it’s not really my place..
This is all coming up (again) because the weekend before our wedding I went to brunch and shopping with a girlfriend and when I returned home Moocher was over. Which is fine, he’s my husband’s friend. Well, they were watching Football, drinking beer, all that hoop la. He drank a 12 pack of Oktoberfest, yes, a 12 pack.. Who does that? And who does that without offering to go to the store when the beer is gone or bring some to begin with? Again, he stays the night and husband doesn’t manage to get rid of him until 2pm on Sunday.. So, I woke up and made a spa appointment, lol.
Now, the Holidays are coming up and his Family is across the country and he basically invited himself over for Thanksgiving after husband told him we were staying home, (our parents live in the Midwest) husband fortunately told him we were celebrating just the two of us but that he can join us for dessert later in the evening. While I understand I am probably being a total bitch and should be more giving around the Holidays I just don’t want to. He would show up at Noon, lay on our couch all day watching Football, drink all our beer and wine and eat all of the fabulous appetizers I slaved so hard on… Husband and I enjoy Football together (who doesn’t) but on Thanksgiving morning/early afternoon we spend it together, he helps me cook, we listen to Christmas Music, drink expensive wine (which we typically don’t do often) and enjoy each other’s company.
Finally – My question is, what should I do?
Keep my trap shut about it or say something to this very inconsiderate friend?
Oh, by the way.. I am 29 and my husband is 33. His friend is around the same age as us..