(Closed) Friends won't get off cellphones

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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3044 posts
Sugar bee

I have no patience for this nonsense; I refuse to compete with a cell  phone!  If I were ever in that situation, the best course of action would be to stand up, and say something along the lines of “I am so very sorry I am not as interesting as your cell phone.  Do have a nice brunch/lunch/dinner/whatever.”, and leave.

Post # 17
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5916 posts
Bee Keeper

I have to admit I’m a bitch when it comes to non-stop texting. I understand the occasional text or keeping your phone handy in case your spouse/kids/babysitter need to reach you. BUT I will not sit there while you go on FB, twitter, instagram &/or carry on lengthy non-urgent chats. I will get up and leave- literally. I will say “sorry you seem to be awfully busy right now, this doesn’t seem to be a good time” ….if it’s a coffee shop I can just leave, if it’s a restaurant I’ll tell them I’ll take care of my own bill on the way out. They get the message pretty quickly, afterward some will apologize, some will give quasi-apologies (excuses) and a few will stay pissed off at me. But they’ll know that it’s unacceptable to me to arrange to meet for coffee or lunch or dinner etc and then ignore me the entire time. It’s just so disrespectful to be with someone who ignores you. 

Post # 18
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3381 posts
Sugar bee

This happened a lot when I worked in an office.  First, co-workers would say “Let me know when you are ready for lunch.” I’d tell them I was ready, but we’d sit around for 10 minutes doing nothing before leaving.  And then not talk in the elevator. And then not talk walking to the restaurant.  And then order and buy lunch.  And then stare at our phones.

I started to bring my lunch to work.

Post # 19
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44 posts
Newbee

I cannot stand when people do this. Now, if it’s a few times to check a text or answer a phone call but tell the caller you’re busy, then I can let it go. I’ve been guilty of it too. However, to sit there on the phone the entire time we’re hanging out? No thanks. After that I just stop hanging out with those people. If we’re just going to be on our phones the entire time I would rather stay home. I don’t know how to get them to stop, I feel like the phone roulette wouldn’t work lol.

Post # 20
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1362 posts
Bumble bee

californiabride2013:  It’s the absolute worst! Not much you can do except call them out on it, or get older friends. I’ve noticed this is much less common in the late 20’s, 30+ crowd.

Post # 22
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5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow, I’ve actually never experienced this with friends.  The only people I know who do this are my young teenage cousins (who I assume are bored by us) and my Brother-In-Law who is, frankly, not a grown up (although he’s actually 29).

Maybe I’m older than I thought.  At 31, this is not normal for any of my friends.  Sure, you might take a call or check a text when it comes in, and you are certainly glued to your phone while commuting on the train or sitting alone on the couch, but while out with friends?  It’s hard enough for me to get the time to see any of my friends to begin with, when we get together it’s non stop talking!

Post # 23
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680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Beautiful place.

I have some friends that do that. My husband does  and I don’t either. 

But most of the People I hang out with are pretty good about it. 

Post # 24
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680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Beautiful place.

I have some friends that do that. My husband does  and I don’t either.  But most of the People I hang out with are pretty good about it. 

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