(Closed) Friends…bridesmaids…ugh

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@ScarletBegonia:Wow, that sounds like a mess! lol Well I understand where you are coming from. I chose my two oldest friends instead of the ones I see more now and it was a tough choice! If you feel that you will feel better asking them then I would go for it! Whatever make you less stressed out! I dont think the MC will be offended at all. Besides you asked her to be involved first and she is still part or your big day!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Could you ask them to be readers?  Or some other role in the wedding that’s not part of the wedding party?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Honestly, its something your friends will get over. I was slightly hurt when I wasn’t asked to be in my close friend’s wedding this past summer, but I sucked it up and dealt with it. I think your friends should understand that you wanted your sister. It’s not like you picked 6 friends and they weren’t included. It sounds like you are in a tough situation – I’d just stand your ground. Maybe explain to them that you wanted to keep your wedding party small and just include a maid of honor and a best man. I think girls might be hurt initially, but then grateful they can just attend the wedding as a guest.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Have you talked to them about the fact that you don’t want to have bridesmaids? If you haven’t, then there is a possibility that they’re sitting around wondering when you’re going to chose them and wishing you would just hurry up and ask.

I think that the best way to handle this is to talk to your friends, let them know that you only ever wanted to have one attendant. Let them know you love them and that you would love to have them involved in some other way, but that when you envision your wedding, you don’t see anybody up there but your sister. 

I’m sure they’ll understand. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You should have your wedding party the way YOU want it. Do NOT ask someone because you think they’ll be hurt if you don’t. If they’re a good enough friend, they will understand and won’t get upset. If they do get mad, they probably aren’t that great  of a friend to begin with.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I say stick to your guns. You made your choices for a reason. If you let your friends know that you don’t plan on anymore attendants, they’ll definitely get over it- they’ll still be at the wedding having a good time! Maybe you could include them in some other way, as a helper, or (if you trust their judgement) leaning on different people for different opinions on things- invites, flowers, etc- so they can feel involved.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes, stick to your guns. I had one Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man and that was it. It was blissful and easy. My other friends didn’t care at all (and were probably relieved), but my aunt did make comments that I should have made my cousins bridesmaids (all of my cousins are girls). I ignored her and I am so happy I did. It’s your day, you go with your heart!

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