- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
So I have a good friend that I met a long time ago. We are the kind of friends that have a lot of fun together. We do girly things, we drink wine, we talk about our children, we shop etc. She is a high maintenance friend, however. And I have known this, and I have looked past that. Well I was previously married and when my divorce was finalized I had a dinner/wine party at my house with my closest friends. Everyone was to bring a bottle of wine and I cooked the meal. So my friend shows up with vodka, she said that wine has calories so she would be drinking vodka. She didnt eat the food because it was pasta and had carbs. She is about 5’0 and 100lbs. Very beautiful!! So the group of girls was a bit put off by this. So glances are exchanged but we get past it. We go out dancing and we are all having a blast and all of a sudden my friend and her friend she brought along are plastered. Without going into details she does something so WRONG and totally classless. She gets sent out of the lounge and her friend gets her home.
I was pretty much at my last straw with this incident. This night was a celebration about me and my time. I needed my girls for support and fun. So after this I decided I would not make any effort to hang out. I am too busy with my life, and my child to deal with drama. So she ended up not contacting me either. That was that.
Fast forward a year or more. She finds out im getting re-married. And it just so happens my wedding is two weeks before hers. She contacts me out of the blue and says she wants to talk about our weddings, and also the night that happened before. So she says that she felt bad because I didn’t have her back and that I should have looked after her. I said, you know, I could have been a bit more gentle, but it was my night, and you were innappropriate beyond words. I told her that she rubbed the other girls the wrong way from the beginning. Yadda Yadda, we say I’m sorry and continue on with our brunch.
Now she only emails me to ask how much my things for the wedding are costing, or to ask how many things ive accomplished. She keeps telling me how her 300 person reception will be paid for by the guests (asian culture). I invited her to our enagagement party, even sent an invitation in the mail. She said OF COURSE!! Sounds like so much fun! Then the next day she said she didn’t know if she was coming because she didn’t know anyone, and that the other girls that did know her didn’t like her, and she didn’t want to be left alone. So I told her the party wasn’t about her, and I would make her feel comfortable at any cost and it would be a grand time. She said Ok. A week later she said she didn’t think she was coming now because she had to pick up a cake for her other friends party. So I told her that the cake shouldn’t be too long and our party was for sure come as you go. She said Ok. Then she backed out again and said she had to work overtime on Saturday. I never heard from her via email after the party. No congrats and no asking me how it was.
Am I being too accomodating to her? Does this friendship seem worth all of the hard work??