- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
I had posted previously about some girls who I am friends with who are not bridesmaids, and how when one of them, Jane, and another one, Mary, found out that they were not going to be bridesmaids, they were really upset and angry with me.
So after Jane found out and was crying and sent me a kind of nasty text, I called her to apologize for the situation. I tried to explain that I still consider her a friend, but we’re just not as close as we used to be and it would have felt “phony” for me to have her up there with my other BMs, who I am legit close with (looking back, I think phony was a bad choice of words, but it just came out of my mouth in the moment). She said she’s angry, she understands my decision, but does not agree with it. A few months later, she g-chatted me and said basically that she doesn’t have the energy to keep up the fight and while she’s still upset and hurt, I think we can eventually maybe move on from this.
The other girl, Mary (who I didn’t even write about in my original post because I was sure that she in no way thought she was a bridesmaid) sent me and the whole group of girls a really nasty email in which she basically called me a lying, two faced bitch. This is AFTER I tried to call her to talk to her about the situation on the phone. I emailed her back and tried to explain, similar to Jane, that we have just grown apart and basically don’t really know each other anymore. I still value her as a friend, but I don’t consider myself close with her or vice versa. She responded with just a few lines, saying she would email me back in more detail later. That was two months ago and I haven’t heard from her.
My best friend, Sarah, from that group went out with Mary and Jane last week. Somehow my wedding came up and Sarah asked if Mary and Jane were planning to go (they’ll both be invited even though there’s this drama going on). Jane said yes she’ll come. Mary said she wouldn’t come, and basically never wants to see or speak to me again. She said she doesn’t even know if she can come to Sarah’s birthday Party because I’ll be there! She can’t even be in the same room with me, apparently.
I am in shock that because she is not a bridesmaid she is basically choosing to end our friendship. I mean, talk about petty and immature! Sorry for the length, this was more a rant than anything…just needed to get it off my chest. Kudos if you read the whole thing 🙂