- 7 years ago
Last year, I recently had a huge falling out with one of my very best friends. We were so close that I actually referred to her as my sister. Throughout our friendship, I noticed that she would often make snide remarks about my lifestyle that seemed a little on the judgemental side. Let me preface this by saying that she is married with small children, and I was the token “single girl.” Whenever I talked about how happy I was to finally be happy and to be where I was in life, for example, she would make a comment about how you do not know the meaning of true happiness until you have children. She would also make nasty remarks about my fiance eluding to the fact that she felt he was not good enough for me. One weekend she had a party, and informed me via e-mail that she would have invited my fiance and I, but it is for “families only”and since we do not have children, we did not get invited. If I came to her to vent or needing advice on a problem, instead of helping me she would make me feel petty and insignificant by saying things like, “I don’t know what to tell you, things like this have not bothered me since high school.” This, among other things, caused much resentment and I became a tad defensive with her. Whenever she criticised me for any aspect of my lifestyle, I became quick to snap back with a remark. It eventually got to the point where I felt myself dodging her e-mails, phone calls, and invites. I finally confronted her about how I felt, and she called me “certifiably crazy” telling me that she has “bigger issues” in life to deal with like a marriage, husband, and kids” and doesn’t have time for me and my drama. She then proceded to write various blogs about both me and my fiance on local websites that were very hateful and vicious in nature. In one post, she called my fiance a “nutjob” and made fun of his profession calling him poor. One of the websites included a popular mom’s website which someone forwarded to me when they recognized who she was. I tried to contact her numerous times to ask her to stop harassing me, but she blocked my e-mail and phone number, claiming to others that I was “a psycho.” She also got her mother involved, and her mother began writing vicious attacks about me online. This went on for about six months until finally I was able to respond to a nasty post written about me on a website asking her to stop yet again. Maybe it is the fact that I now work in the legal field, but thankfully she did stop. (For now.) I have managed to let go of the anger, but the pain is still there sometimes. This was a female who I was going to ask to be a bridesmaid, and it hurts that she turned out to be a totally different person from who I thought she was. So, now that this is off my chest, I invite anyone to share their friendship fall out experience. Have any of you brides had an awful friendship fall out?