(Closed) Friendship Letdown

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Ouch.  I would be hurt, too, in your position.

I think you can just stick with a generic explanantion of “We just can’t make it,” or “It’s just not in the cards for us,” if you’re asked why you aren’t going.

You haven’t seen these folks in two years, so it would be a bit strange of them to pressure you to come.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Just say no and don’t give an explanation on the RSVP. If you rarely hear from them AND you send in the card on time, I doubt they will bother to ask why. I think you are being perhaps too considerate of their feelings. And in this scenario, if they do happen to ask why, just say you and Fiance had plans that night and couldn’t make it, and congratulations. It’s ok to fib a little, especially if it is out of kindness.

Post # 5
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Just be honest with them if they ask. They didn’t give you an explaination as to why they decided to choose the other girl over you, so they don’t deserve an explanation on the response card as to why you aren’t going. And if the groom calls to ask you, just let him know that there was a slew of things that they did to you over the last 2 years that made you question their friendship, and you don’t want to be a part of it.

I’m sorry they slighted you so much, but you have a wonderful fiance and hopefully wonderful friends now that are a part of your own wedding!

Post # 6
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If you haven’t seen them in two years and rarely have any other form of communication (except texts), then I doubt they will be surprised to get a No back on the RSVP.  I don’t think an expanation is required.  I didn’t really leave space for notes on my RSVPs!

 

Post # 8
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135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I don’t think you need to explain if boy asks just say you guys are busy or that you don’t feel comfortable going because your friendship has drifted apart.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you’re doing the right thing by not going. Don’t put yourself in a miserable situation to please other people, especially when they haven’t been very good friends.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

PP’s are right, you don’t have to give an explanation.  It isn’t their business why you aren’t going. 

And honestly, I wouldn’t send them a gift either.  That may be mean of me, but a card would suffice in this situation. 

Post # 11
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Douchebags, the lot of ’em!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Torrid:  Ha!  The perfect sentiment for so many occasions!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@teaadntoast: I think if people (me included) just threw up our hands in a lot of relationship situations and said, “It’s all just a bunch of douchebaggery!” we’d be a lot less stressed!

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