Post # 1
So, now since I am married, suddenly a friend of mine who I haven’t seen or spoken with in 5 years wants to get coffee with me. I had been trying to contact her several times before over the years, trying to figure out what happened to her. She literally fell off the face of the planet, without any warning. If I did something to upset her, she didn’t communicate that. I was worried she might had gotten in an accident or in trouble. She has not been a part of my life for so long that my husband has never even met her (we’ve been together 4 years). But I met her 15 years ago.
I have mixed feelings about reconnecting with her. Any advice/insight?
Post # 3
@iloverocks: It’s not necessarily related to your marriage. People can want to reconnect for all sorts of reasons.
So I say ignore the timing, and meet if you want to, and don’t if you don’t.
If it was someone I had been friends with for 10 years, I’d probably meet up.
Post # 4
Why not meet up with her and find out what’s up?
Post # 5
I’d go just to catch up. Meeting for coffee doesn’t mean you are suddenly friends again. She was part of your life for many years.
Post # 6
Personally, the possibility of getting to reconnect with an old friend definitely outweights the possibility that you get together and don’t mesh anymore. I mean if you guys don’t mesh anymore, you’re just in the same place you are now. But maybe you’ll hit it off again! So why not?
Post # 7
@iloverocks: Maybe something was going on with her. I had a bad depression and fell off the face of the earth for 3 years. Luckily most of my friends welcomed me back with open arms. Listen to what she says, then make up your mind if you want he back in your life.
Post # 8
Maybe she went through somethings really traumatic or difficult, so I’d give her the benefit of the doubt until I hear the reasons.
I have had people like that too. One lady I reconnected with on FB, but then she dropped me again like a hot potato! I cannot think what I did to her! I try to believe it’s them not you. LOL