(Closed) Fristraited … I never get to finish !

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Talk to him about it..COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE & COMMUNICATE….lol…. This is KEY. Let him know how you feel and come up with ways to either prolong him climaxing and/or please you first and then reciprocate the favor.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Dude…I woulda blacked both his eyes by now.  That’s bad bedroom form there, and I’m not blaming him for being quick on the draw, some guys are like that and there’s nothing to be done, but if you haven’t gotten your cookies, homeboy better be ready to take care of you some other way, it’s just not over until then!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Fiance and I used to have that problem, and ever since I let him know, he ALWAYS makes sure I go first. In some instances, he waits for me and we go together and it is *magic*.

So like PPs (tee hee) have said, communication is key, girl! You either need to step up and tell him so that he fixes the situation, or be proactive about it! Find some KY jelly that is for female pleasure, or ask him to do some things you like to get you on your way to the big O. 

Hope that helps!

Get it gurl 😉

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

You should be going first then! That’s what my SO and I do. If not, you need to go two rounds. So he can go really fast the first time like normal, then by the second round he should be able to last long enough so you can go too since he won’t be as sensitive.

But you need to say something!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

If he finishes first then he should man up and reciprocate until you do.  Or he should take care of you, first, and then get his.  What he’s doing is unacceptable!  I have the O every time – otherwise I’d be one pissed off woman and that man wouldn’t get any sleep whatsoever until he took care of business.   Fair is fair.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

A friend of mine went through something like this.  Great communication, everything else was fine he just got too excited.  She would prolong foreplay for him, so he would finish before they got started.  Once the first one was out of the way, he could last much longer.  They’ve been together over 10 years, have a toddler, and are as happy as ever…although I think it got better as time went on too.  

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ll echo what PPs have said, and that is he should look after you first if he knows he can’t last long. Definitely communicate and find a happy medium. Maybe he can’t handle much foreplay, so he’s a little to primed when the action starts. Or as a PP said, maybe he can finish during foreplay and then concentrate on you. But let him know what he’s doing now certainly isn’t cool. If he continues to laugh at you for being frustrated , I’d pull out a vibrator next time and go “No way honey, you’re not touching me until I finish…”

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Are you on some kind of bc? I think you are more likely to get pregnant if he comes twice, but maybe not twice as much. Either way, that’s a silly reason for him not to help you finish. There are plenty of ways to finish/have an enjoyable time besides penetration. Do some experimenting with the things that work best for you guys!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have him take care of you first so you will not have the feelings you are having after sex. He has to know this cant continue if this is going to be a long term relationship. He has to put you first and make sure your needs are met then be concerned with his needs.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

He laughs at you b/c he’s a selfish hog who only takes and won’t help you finish?! Whoa, he would not be MY SO any longer…

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

@red_rose:  Its the laughing that would get to me also. The few times I havent finished my Fiance feels bad. Laughing shows that it is funny to him. Doubt this is a joke to OP!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yikes. How is it the best sex ever if you don’t get to finish… ever? Part of the reason why I love my husband so much is because he is completely unselfish in the boudoir. If I’m not happy, he’s not happy. Laughing at you because you’re unsatisfied is incredibly selfish. I have to agree with joy2011. Knowing what I know now about how things CAN be? That’d be a red flag and he wouldn’t be my SO any longer either. If you are going to stick it out, do what everyone else has already said. Talk to him.

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