Post # 1
I am posting this here to get input from you gorgeously curvy ladies on the best appraoch to a few things. I am a very small person, three of my bridesmaids are gorgeous and full figured and busty. Two issues have come up that I want to make sure I handle with the best tact possible (one already happened so if I did it wrong, please yell at me so I do a better job next time!)
1. J Crew of Georgetown ASSURED me they would have my bridesmaids dresses in sizes 10-16 for try on for the girls who needed it. I confirmed that TWICE. When one of the girls arrived for try-ons…SIZE EIGHT was the biggest they had. I felt like my bridesmaid couldn’t really kick up a fuss because that would be “dramatic” and so I took the store to task, negotiated a discount etc. Should I have just IGNORED it so as not to call attention to the fact that she needed over a size eigth?
2. My Future Mother-In-Law and two FSILS are extremely thin. Future Mother-In-Law has passed a few snarky comments about one of my bridesmaids weight, how “wouldn’t she look better in clothes if…” and “does she have to show so much skin” etc. Now, my Future Mother-In-Law has also suggestd that I lose weight before the wedding so she really just lacks tact in that area. How do I make it (more) clear to her that if she says ANYTHING like that to ANY of my girls that I am going to flip! OR do I just ignore that to not call further attention to it?
Post # 3
Not sure about the first one.
As for the second, I would politely tell her that they’re your friends, you love them exactly the way they are so you’re not worried about it, you think they look beautiful!
ETA: IF she continues, then I think you should just politely tell her to cut out the rude comments.
Post # 4
Jeeze, looks like you are going to have your hands full with Future Mother-In-Law. It’s not worth the fight. No matter what you say, she’s is still going to be the same opinionated person she is and you do have to endure this torture until she meets her maker. I’m sure there will be far more obnoxious things she will do in the future and I think you should choose your battles. Don’t forget, but sit on it until she finally crosses a line of no return.
I work in the same building as my Future Mother-In-Law and she is a real piece of work. I used to get super iritated at almost everything she says and does and then complain to FH. Now, I just rock his world everytime I am angry at her and don’t say a word to him about her behavior. There is nothing he can do, she raised him and he doesn’t even notice when she is being obnoxious. He has a very stressful job, he loves me, and nothing else matters. She can go kick rocks.
Oh, and good work with the dresses. You did what you could and I would call Jcrew headquarters to complain.
Post # 5
I agree with calling JCrew headquarters and complaining. I’m a street size 14 and it happened to me both bridesmaid dress shopping for my sisters wedding and wedding dress shopping. I called and complained saying there is nothing they can do for me, I just don’t want it to happen to anyone else.
As for your Future Mother-In-Law, I would tell your friends to ignore her. If they are good friends, they’ll understand that you have their best interests in mind and that you don’t want to start something with your Future Mother-In-Law before the wedding even happens.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Post # 6
I don’t mind FMILS comments towards me. That just shows she is a nasty person. But what would you want the bride to do if the comments were directed towards you as a bridesmaid? Does it call more attention to take her to task or do you pull her aside and say something afterward. Its just frustrating because these girls are the ones who are There For Me and her and her skinny daughters….aren’t!