Post # 1
Did any bees start out planning for a large wedding/ reception but then later decided to have a smaller wedding/ reception or even JOP wedding followed by a casual backyard reception? And what made you decide for something smaller or simpler?
Post # 3
bump. The reason I ask this, is because I was planning a big wedding. But, it is soooooo stressful that I have comtemplated just having a smaller wedding (just close friends and family, and simple reception) or even go way easier and just JOP it, followed by a casual backyard reception. We have the money for a big dream wedding, but Im already having headaches from it and I just started planning.
I have to say all the stress is making me want something more simple and waaaaaay more laid back.
Post # 4
I have a LARGE family and lots of friends. If I had a big formal wedding, my guest count will be about 350-400 guests (give or take the ones that can’t attend). Even though we would LOVE to have everyone share in our special day, that can get super pricey. Do we feel the need to spend that money on one day? No. And we did not just want to have a medium size wedding (maybe 150-200 guests) because, then we would have to invite some, but leave others out of our wedding celebration. And we did not want to do that either, especially because it can lead to hurt feelings and such. We decided, we might just do a smaller (70 guests) wedding ceremony and reception. Family only. We feel it’s the only way, without breaking the bank for us.
Post # 5
@PlumeriaDream: OMG!!! 400 guests would be a hard expense to swallow. Plus, it would be hard to book a venue, especially because lots of places maybe only hold up to 250-300 maybe, if you are lucky. But, I would think it would be quite tight as well.
Post # 6
I wanted about 70-80 guests, but then when we added up my fiance’s family alone, we were at 40. We started planning for 120 but I was so stressed out about how we were going to afford it, especially since it was going to be a destination for more than more than 70% of the guests, no matter where we held it. So, we decided that we were going to just have an immediate family only wedding, with reception BBQs the following summer to celebrate with everyone else in a more casual way. Plus, there will be multiple ones, in different locations for each family. It’s definitely been a lifesaver for me (and my fiance’s dealing with my stress)! I sometimes still want to just elope with him (but that’s just because my venue went out of business so I have to start over) but it’s definitely a lot less stressful, knowing that we have so much less to manage.
I think a backyard BBQ sounds great, but since I’ve always wanted a fall wedding and don’t want to be wearing a heavy dress in the summer (already bought it), the backyard BBQ doesn’t work. But, our receptions later will definitely be laid back BBQs. With everyone travelling so far, we felt like we had to make it a big party with dinner and everything. If most guests were local, I would definitely prefer a more casual day time thing.
We did end up increasing our guest list to include 2 close friends for each of us. Good luck!
Post # 7
Originally we were planning on having around 150. But after thinking about it more we realised that we really didnt need to invite that third cousin or that Aunty we have only met once… so were now down to 85 including photographer, videographer and band.
Post # 8
If we had our wedding here in Seattle we would have ended up with 200 plus guests. We both have LARGE families & lots of friends. We decided to have a small intimate Destination Wedding with 30-40 guests instead and I’m happy we went this route.