(Closed) From Bride to Bridesmaid

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think when it comes to personal choices, keep your mouth shut unless asked. If there’s a way to save her money or make something easier, I would help out by saying something.

Post # 4
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1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I am in your boat only I haven’t gotten to be the bride yet:) My bestie is getting married 6 weeks after us and I am her Maid/Matron of Honor. I am THRILLED for her. Our other friend got married last April and we were both bridesmaids in her wedding and she is a bridesmaid in both of ours. She is constantly saying things like “I wish I would have….” and she has MAJOR dress and ring envy over both of us. LOL. BUT my Bestie and I just laugh it off and I am trying REALLY hard to let wedding planning be about HER when we are there for her since mine is pretty much planned. THey are throwing me a bridal shower next month that I know will be amazing (they are keeping all the details a secret) so I am making sure I plan hers to be amazing as well. I am having FUN with it. Hopefully your friend can laugh about it like mine is when we all do the my wedding this and oh you should do that……Oh and they arne’t members of the bee and I am constantly bringing up things I read on here. THey told me I am like “THis one time at band camp….” hahahaha

Post # 6
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404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My only experience with this was at my sister in laws wedding. Her Maid/Matron of Honor had been married earlier that year. As a brides maid I found it horribly annoying how often i heard ” At my wedding….” over and over again. It seemed like she was trying really hard to take some of the attention away from my Sis-in-law.

I think if you are mindful of your comments and if your advice is useful then go for it.

Post # 7
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3226 posts
Sugar bee

Hasn’t happened to me yet, but when I was in another wedding, one of the other bridesmaid just got married the month before. She did a great job keeping her mouth shut. Her wedding was extremely well organized and well executed. The wedding where we were both bridesmaids was very disorganized – to the point where we were still taking bridal party pictures at the church when guest were coming in and we had to wait two hours after getting to the reception to eat. I really admire her for that because it would have been tough to keep my mouth shut.

Post # 8
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7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

It is even harder when she asks for your opinion and when you give it to her she doesn’t like it…that is what I am experiencing. She wants my advice, but when it give it to her she snubs it. She says she doesn’t want “my wedding” but I kind of don’t know how to give her advice based off of anything else other than events that happened at my wedding. I am more stressed as a Maid/Matron of Honor than a bride, but I am making it through. She and I have very different tastes, so unless she asks I am not saying a word.

Post # 10
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I went through this also a couple years ago when one of my good friends got married. I was Maid/Matron of Honor and at first had a hard time seperating what she was choosing from what I would want. But that’s what it boils down to, even though it may not be what you would have chosen, it’s NOT your wedding. I adopted the rule of not giving my opinion unless specifically asked. Everything seemed to run smoothly after that. And we all ended up having a great time!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

lOL i am currently the bride. 3 out of my 5 bridesmaids have gotten married in the past 2 years.   Only one of them keeps doing this, and ironically everything imagine able went wrong in hers lol

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