(Closed) From Newlyweds to Nesting…

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: From Newlyweds to Nesting...
    If I could go back, I would spend MUCH less on my wedding. : (3 votes)
    7 %
    I had a conservative budget to begin with, so I'm happy with the amount we spent. : (16 votes)
    36 %
    I spent too much $$ on my wedding & but I don't mind because it only happens once. : (11 votes)
    24 %
    We already own a home, so our wedding didn't affect our ability to buy a home. : (12 votes)
    27 %
    I have something else I want to say about this subject & I'll respond below. : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    754 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2008

    We spent too much on our wedding, but I wouldn’t go as far as saying, "I would spend MUCH less on my wedding."  I would say, if I could do it again, I would have spent less.  It was unfortunate that I didn’t find Weddingbee and Project Wedding until after a lot of planning was completed.  I was proposed to on Christmas Day and got married at the end of May, so the time constraints played a huge part.  I was just clueless on how to plan a wedding, I know so much more now.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m not there yet, but already wishing to be in the nesting phase..geez it will be wonderful when we’re all under one roof.  When my move is complete.  When we can just relax and wake up next to each other.

    I’ve somewhat learned from my prior life experience that I’m not going to spend an arm and a leg on our wedding, but will spend what’s appropriate for us to have a beautiful and elegant yet intimate wedding.  We’re a teeny bit older too and will live in his home. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    19 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2007

    My hubby already had a house, before we were married, so that was already taken care of. But our wedding only cost about $5000 and we only paid about $3000 of that. So I think we did ok. I don’t know how we could have spent any less, but I’m glad we didn’t spend anymore since now we have to work on actually getting the house paid off!

    Post # 7
    Bee
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

    we’re pre-empting this by spending a VERY small amount on our wedding <1000 because our real goal is homeownership.

    Post # 8
    Member
    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I wish we had saved more so that we wouldn’t still be struggling to pay off credit card debt.  It does seem that now that the wedding is over house and babies are fast approaching- and I worry about never having enough money for those things.

    However, we were very careful about having as as low a cost wedding as we could while still making it the event we wanted it to be.  It was amazing and I really wouldn’t change anything.

    Post # 9
    Member
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I would have changed how much we spent on a few things, but that was due to now feeling like we over paid for what we got, not because we feel teh money should have gone towards a house.  Because of the crappy economy, we are renting in a place we wouldn’t otherwise be able to afford, but we can’t afford to buy here. A fraction of a few million is a good deal – but still WAAYY out of our budget for buying!

    Post # 10
    Member
    1078 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    We were a little over budget, but like the survey says….it only happens once! Thankfully, we came out of the event with no debt leftover.

    Post # 11
    Member
    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    I think if we were to do it over, we’d just have a smaller event and cut costs that way. We came out debt free, but left with no nest egg. We’ve been in scrimp and save mode for a year now to cover the wedding, so we’re just keeping that mindset to save for a bigger house!

    Post # 12
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    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Well, my Fiance and I don’t have debt. THe down payment on our house is taken care of and we’re chipping away at our mortgage….if we had ANY student debt, CC debt etc. Or if the wedding was our whole nest egg. It certainly isn’t. You bet your sweetness our wedding would be chopped back significantly if we weren’t financially stable. Not that I’m not being financially savvy and watching our dinero as it is, though. The one place we could have cut back is our venue and saved a chunk…but still. Only because we KNOW we are ok spending that amount. I have issues spending money when you’re in debt and have no nest egg. I could NEVER do it!

    I think owning a home together is WAY more important! 

    Great post, sometimes hindsight is 20/20. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Seriously..one thing I consider to be an asset in being an encore is the fact i’ve "been there…done that".  Otherwise I could totally see myself going waaaay overboard on spending.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Luckily, my Fiance already owns his house. And luckily, I love it and love the location. Even still, we are having a very small-budget wedding. We do not want to go into debt to get married. Plus, we’d like to save some money to do some minor (cosmetic) and major (make room for a couple of babies) home renovations.

    I’m already nesting! I moved in about 7 months ago and I’m we’re doing some changes to make it more of a home and less of a bachelor pad!

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