Post # 32
I wouldn’t say they were taboo exactly, but large rings do have a “chavvy, new money, footballer’s wife” stereotype attached to them. That said, you are an American. People will know the difference between a chav and an American.
I saw a woman on the tube with a ROCK once. It was about 1.5 carats. I immediately thought “American”, LOL. In my life in general I rarely see stones of over 0.5 carats.
Post # 33
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard
@Future_Mrs_Dr_I: I was in France and England recently. I heard they were not big on diamonds so I paid attention. I did not see any big e-rings anywhere.
but like PPs said, I don’t think anyone will notice or care. it’s good that you are thinking of getting a plain band. that’ll help blend in if you wanted.
Post # 34
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard
OMG, “chav”! I think this might be my favorite new word. thanks!
Post # 35
I’m an American living in London and I’ve never felt that my ring is overly large. I get compliments on it from time to time, but it’s certainly not taboo. By my assessment, I think a higher percentage of Americans wear larger rings than the English, but I would say that’s consistent with the British understated, sophisticated style and just more of a cultural thing. And I have coworkers – also American gals – with much, much larger rings than mine and they have never felt uncomfortable.
Post # 36
My husband is British and we’re in Europe all the time even though we live in the States. Your demeanor and behavior will earn you the “chav” tag way faster than a ring will. Most people don’t even notice your ring unless you’re flaunting it. There’s definitely a “stereotypical American” image that many Europeans have in their minds — excitable, boisterous, maybe a bit uncouth, a little demanding– if you don’t fall into that trap, no one will make any judgments about your ring.
Post # 37
When I went to Europe I mostly saw local women just wearing wedding bands of some sort. If they did have a stone I noticed a popular setting was a bezel solitaire and the largest size stone I saw was probably around .75 ct.
However, I wouldn’t recommend basing your decision for an engagement ring on your location. Get what you love.
ETA: When locals we met found out we were on our honeymoon LOTS of them asked to see my ring! Unfortunately I left it at home and just wore my wedding band. I think they were really interested in seeing an American engagement ring hehe! Basically what I’m trying to say is they seemed more curious than judgemental.
Post # 38
Yeah I know, it was huge, my eyes would have popped out of my head if I hadn’t trying to maintain a cool and indifferent exterior.
Post # 39
It stands for “Council Housed And Violent”. Became popular during the 1990s! I’m thinking more of “chav made good” here though… I imagine that someone like Del Boy out of Only Fools and Horses would buy his missus a huge rock if he won the lottery, for example!
Post # 40
- Wedding: January 2014 - Lizard Island, Australia
ha ha I always remember when Del Boy bought an engagement ring for a woman one episode. He said to her ‘I know you like solitaires so I got you a cluster of them’ 😀
Post # 41
Totally agree! Get what you want, who cares what other people think?
Post # 42
I was in a jewelery store in Germany when I lived there and couldn’t believe the prices! €16,000 for a 1 carat solitaire!
Post # 43
WOW I didn’t know Chav stood for that!! Glad to see another Del Boy fan on here 😉
My ring is 1/3 carat but since I have tiny fingers (size 2.25) it looks closer to 1/2 carat. Everyone I know has less than 1/2 carat except from one girl who has a heirloom diamond. I think it’s 1 carat. I remember thinking it was the biggest diamond I have ever seen!! But working in central London I do see a few larger rings (perhaps because I’m ring spotting) but they are the exception rather than the norm. It’s not taboo, it’s just uncommon
Post # 44
Yep! 16K for a 1c is the price for a flawless D color! The problem is: there are hardly any bigger stones in lesser quality/color for sale plus there is no real engagement culture so we end up with a plain band. Poor European women. If I could do it over again I would go for and American fiance:)
Post # 45
Er… actually I just looked it up and I could be wrong!
“The 2010 book Stab Proof Scarecrows surmised that “chav” was an abbreviation for “council housed and violent”; this created a backronym. This backronym was used in a 2012 public statement by Rapper Plan B as he spoke out to oppose the use of the term.
In 2013 on BBC Learning English Professor David Crystal, one of the world’s foremost experts on language is featured and states “People talk about ‘chav behaviour’ or ‘chav insults’ and that sort of thing. Oh, don’t believe the popular etymologies that you read sometimes in the press and on websites. I saw one the other day, people said, ‘It’s an acronym, ‘chav’, from council house and violent’ – well, no, it isn’t, that was made up in recent times”.”
Post # 46
I agree with most of what has been said here. I am European and have lived in 4 European countries and travelled to others. In the country I come from, most women do not have/get engagement rings, some do not even wear their wedding bands.
In the country I am living now, girls are really into e-rings, and non-diamond e-rings are not common at all (havent seen any actually!), but as mentioned by others the diamonds wouldnt normally be too big.
That said, i think whatever you choose to wear, it will be ok and if people stare it is because they like it rather than judging or thinking you are a freak.
As long as it is not anything outrageous (like a diamond skull) I dont think people will think you are a chav.