- 9 years ago
I’m new to blogging so bear with me through this. There are just a few things I need some advice on. My boyfriend hasn’t proposed and I’m not sure why. I find myself being very confused and frustrated by this. We’ve been dating for 3 years. One year ago he accepted a position roughly 400 miles from where I was living. He wanted me to come with him so 3 months later I found a job and moved to be with him. This was his first “real” job out of college so I didn’t think it would be long until he would have saved up enough money to buy a nice ring and propose. Well…I was wrong. It’s been 9 months since I’ve moved to be with him and there’s been no indication of a ring or marriage. He says that he wants to get married and has every intention of being with me. However, one night I tactfully approached him about the subject because I knew if I let it bother me too long it would really become a problem. His response to why we weren’t engaged, “I don’t know.” He could not think of a legitimate reason. I had imagined everything to be much different when I moved to be with him. I’ve made a lot of sacrifices to move in with him. There are no problems in our day to day lives, just this big one. He gets upset when I talk to him about it(which I don’t do often) and says that it makes him feel bad about himself that he hasn’t proposed yet. I’m getting to the point where I don’t feel bad anymore and it’s starting to really upset me. I really believed that he was the one I wanted to be with and that he felt the same way, but if he doesn’t propose I don’t think I can stay. I really don’t feel like this is fair to me. I’ve made it clear how important marriage is to me but I don’t know if it gets through. Maybe I’m being too hard on him? I need some advice, desperately.