(Closed) Frustrated

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think that you either have to wait for him to be sure- he knows how you feel, you know how he feels. Or put the pressure on..


My advice is to wait. But not in the “waiting” sense. Go about your life as normal! Don’t let on that you are wanting to get married NOW, just be yourself. Do exciting things, go places. He will see that you love and respect him enough not to nag him about his choice. 


Worked for me at least 😛

Post # 4
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

To me, visiting you has nothing to do with marriage. You’ve been together 3 years and now he can’t visit because he’s not sure he wants to get married? That sounds off to me.

Post # 5
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I can only say what happened to me.


I had a long distance relationship. I was in Florida and he was in England. Eventhough he was the first one that brought marriage up and sort of proposed, every time I would say something about getting married, he would get uncomfortable or change the subject. When I’d question him, he say he needed time, wanted to think, etc. 

We broke up soon after. He didn’t really care as much as I thought he did. In fact, there was another woman. 

That’s not to say that this is what’s happening with you, but if he really loved you…what’s the deal? I dunno.

Post # 6
529 posts
Busy bee

@misscakeandtea:  +1

regardless of what is going on with him the best thing you can do is back off and focus on you! Let him have some time and space and there is a good chance he will realize how great you are and start moving forward.

Post # 8
299 posts
Helper bee

@CaliGirlinLondon:  I would take off the pressure of a proposal and see if he’s willing to visit after that. If he comes to see you then you know it’s just a simple case of cold feet. If he still continues to push the date back you will know something more is troubling him.

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