(Closed) frustrated

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My advice to you would be to just breathe and think about your options. You can either…

1) Have a larger wedding and possibly have to tone down other aspects of the evening in order to afford it


2) Have it be a more intimate wedding (which there is nothing wrong with that) and not have to stress so much about money

Starting to plan a year in advance is exactly when you need to begin. But I highly recommend that you choose a route that will keep you financially secure. Stressing about money is the worst part about weddings sometimes and you will most definitely feel worse and worse as time goes on if you can only constantly stress about how you will make the bills.

As for your sis, maybe take her opinions into account but always remember that it is YOUR wedding. Family opinions are likely to come in throughout the planning process, but you just have to be able to stay focused on what you and your future hubby want. If they don’t like it, oh well…

Post # 4
1104 posts
Bumble bee

Our guest list ended up being dictated by the venue we chose – there really wasn’t room for more than 100 people if we wanted a dancefloor (which I did). It was hard to cut the guest list down but at the end of the day we ended up with less than 90 people and it was a really good number for us. Enough that it felt like a real party but not so much that we didn’t get to talk to everyone 🙂 It definitely helped with the budget to know that we had a firm limit on numbers, otherwise it would have been tempting to invite lots more people (I have a big extended family, most of whom were not invited).

Try to talk to people who are really supportive – it can be hard to get excited about someone else’s wedding when it’s over a year away, but I’m sure you will find someone. I had a group of girlfriends who were great for this! Focus on what you and your Fiance want and it will come together. Good luck!

Post # 5
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

What I would suggest is writing down everyone you could possibly want to invite, and then start ranking them in order of how badly you want them.  Then pick a venue, and whatever’s the max capacity of the venue determines how many people you invite off the top of your list.

Another tactic is to make some rules like “first cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents only” or “coworkers but not their kids” or etc.  That way you won’t feel bad cutting people out of the guest list since you did that for everyone else in their category.

Also, if your sister is being a little intimidating and frustrating while picking out a venue, perhaps you should go venue-shopping with someone else!  I went with my Fiance only, and informed my family afterward what place we picked.

Post # 7
2410 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That is the spirit! Don’t be disheartened by the whole you have an entire year talk, people often don’t understand how much goes into planning a wedding until they get started themselves. You will be fine.

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