- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I’m getting married at the church I grew up in, the same one where my dad is the associate pastor, and I’m very excited about that. I started going there since I was two, and even though I live far away now I always imagined my wedding would be there. I’m feeling a little frustrated after a conversation I had with my parents, though. We have a relatively new minister (she hasn’t been there for a year yet), and I literally have never met her. I liked the idea of being married by someone I know at least a little bit. I was hoping that one of the two ministers that came before this new one would be able to do the wedding. I like them, I know them, I feel comfortable with them. Well, my dad ran this idea by the new minister (who I guess is sort of like his boss) and she said absolutely not. SHE is the minister at the church and only SHE can perform wedding ceremonies. I guess I can understand where she’s coming from, but I just don’t see why it should be such a big deal to her. I know a lot of people are married by someone who doesn’t know them at all, but I feel really disappointed. I was kind of already picturing one of the two people I know doing it, and this really throws a wrench in that vision. Plus, I feel like she’s being a little petty about it. Truth be told, maybe I’m being petty too, because part of me is now thinking, “This has been my church for 22 years, she’s only been here for less than a year, why is she being so possessive?”
What do you think? I think my only option is to suck it up if I want to get married there and I definitely do. I’m just a little sad because I never anticipated she’d have a problem with me wanting to get married by someone I know who is a minister of the same faith and even used to work in the same church.