Post # 1
Hi bees, I’m new here and only started browsing a few weeks ago when my SO and I started talking about getting engaged and buying a ring. We even talked about when we want to get married, summer of 2014 (deposit has already been made). I had my ring customed made, he’s asked my parents permission, and I know he has the ring already (since early March). We’re currently doing the long distance thing till July when I move to where he lives.
So what I’m frustrated with is he still hasn’t proposed and I’m going nuts! We fly to see eachother about every 2-3 weeks so I keep thinking it’s going to happen. He’s been trying to plan my 36th bday which isn’t till mid June and I’m thinking he wants to wait till then to propose and that is way too long for me. I also don’t want a bday proposal. He’s sensing things are bothering me and I don’t know what to do. If he is planning my bday just to plan it, I don’t want to come off ungrateful. I love him dearly and he’s the most amazing guy ever but making me wait another 3 months just doesn’t make any sense to me. Please help if you have any advice or related story.
Post # 3
So in a couple of weeks, you have started talking about getting married and buying a ring, having said ring custom made (that was fast…) and him asking your parents for permission. I admit, I don’t get why men hang on to the ring for months and months but in this case it has been a few weeks, give the guy a break and let him propose to you when he wants. If he is an amazing guy then I am sure he is worth being a little bit patient for…
Post # 4
Since you know he has the ring it makes every day seem like a week! Maybe you can make some subtle hints about not wanting anything special for your birthday or just a quiet night in. Then if he was planning something special he will try and plan it for another night? Good luck!
Post # 5
Yea waiting sucks I hear ya!
Post # 6
I would let him do it his way. My So has emphasized how imporant it is to him to do it his way because once you are engaged, it’s all about what the woman wants (for the most part). This is the one thing your SO can plan all on his own and do it his way!
Let him have this one
Post # 7
@ MrsHRC – oh no, ive been on wb for a few weeks. My SO and I have been doing the wedding talk since Nov/Dec. Started the ring order beginning of Jan so u can only understand my frustration that I know have to wait another 3 months.
@ Miss2Mrsbeerlover – I think thats a great idea 🙂 Hopefully it’ll work!
Post # 8
@Ovalgem613 – I feel your frustration. My SO bought the ring in my presence in late January, and all he’ll say is that it’s not going to happen ‘any time soon’. He did say that he wants to see how his next set of classes go, but that’s like, December. Forever!
Good luck and I hope it works out sooner for you than it appears to be for me.
Post # 9
@aithinne – ugh how frustrating! I actually got into a small disagreement with SO last night. I made a comment about how I feel silly about finalizing the venue when we weren’t official yet and he said ok then, stop planning and he was going to propose when he was ready. Then the tables turned and he’s now annoyed with me. This was definitely not how I wanted things to pan out 🙁 I fly out to visit him tomorrow and really hope I didn’t ruin things for our wknd together or worse yet, delay his plans to propose! Well it’s a huge lesson learned – I will NEVER bring it up or pressure him again!
@memo – you’re right..I just couldn’t control how upset I was feeling. Once he started asking me about what I wanted to do for my bday wknd, I sensed it was going to happen then b/c he RARELY plans anything (I do all of the planning for our events) so I couldn’t help but get upset thinking he was going to wait till June. Am I being super bratty for being upset? We’ve practically been engaged since Dec when we went ring shopping and talking about getting engaged so it just feels like an eternity ago. Plus everyone knew about that and now are asking what is going on with your engagement?? All I can say is I have no idea. Just makes it seem like he’s having doubts. I never looked at it as this being HIS time but now that you say it is..I guess I should’ve really backed off.
Post # 10
@Ovalgem613: Let him do it how he wants. At least you know he has the ring! I’d give my right arm to have the kind of intel.
Post # 11
@badabing88: haha yeah after last night’s spat, I’m def letting him do what he wants! We have a great relationship right now so I really shouldn’t complain. Are you in a similar situation? I swear I was losing my mind for awhile but found the wedding bee and it’s really saved me in so many ways. This site/board is awesome!