Post # 1
i got engaged this past june. My Fiance’s best friend got engaged a month later, and ever since it has been such a competition. She claimes her ring came from a very popuar jewler and got it for an unrealistic price, she said she got a 2ct. for less than $1500. I really have a hard time believing it for the simple fact that my 2ct. cost WAY more than that. I have a feeling that it is a CZ and she is trying to pass it off as a diamond. And honestly it wouldnt bother me but i have to hear about how great her ring is day in and day out bc they live down the street. I am so fed up with hearing about how expensive her wedding is going to be that i dont know how much longer i can keep my mouth shut. i just dont want to distroy a friendship. especially because we just recently moved and they are the only people that we know:( please help me with this issue that i am having. Should i confront her about all these false statements that she continues to make?
Post # 3
don’t confront her. it doesn’t matter what her ring cost or whether it’s real. you really shouldn’t care. as long as she isn’t criticizing what you are doing, there’s no reason to open that can. smile and nod.
Post # 4
I woud try not to confront her about these but maybe just laugh it off to yourself. If thats the story she wants to tell you then she is probably not going to change her story just because you confront her (“oh ok, you got me, my ring really is fake”).
Maybe try to talk about stuff other than weddings.
Post # 5
I don’t know if I would confront her but more or less, if she brings it up, perhaps don’t take her bait. Just shake your head like you’re agreeing to whatever and let it roll off your shoulders. Be the bigger person and don’t let it show her that it bothers you.
Also, why not start to discuss your wedding?
Post # 6
You can’t prove whether it’s real or fake, so why would you confront her? I really don’t see how it affects you whether her ring is real or not. If it’s real, good for her; if it makes her feel better to pretend it’s real, good for her. Just try to change the subject next time she brings it up if it bothers you that badly.
Post # 7
I would suck it up and know that you’s will be more meaninful!
Post # 8
1,500! haha thats laughable…i say let it go..she should let the ring speak for itself. the fact that she is bragging about the cost and the size says something right there…far from classy.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t confront her. It shouldn’t bother you that much. It shouldn’t turn into a competition. Don’t call her out on her claims. It may cause unneeded drama.
Post # 10
You think it’s a 2 ct. CZ? You should be able to tell at that size. It’s probably moissanite if you have trouble figuring it out. Price range fits.
But don’t let it bother you. If she’s bragging about price she probably is feeling insecure about it or something. No need to demonize her for it.
Post # 11
In the long run does it really matter? For some reason she has decided that she wants to make this a contest and I am sure that it is b/c she is insecure about herself or her wedding or something in her life and she is taking it out on you. If she is one of your only friends in your new city I think what you should really be doing is trying to support her, maybe if you focus on giving her praise for things (other than the ring) she won’t feel such a need to brag about her ring (real or not) to you and everyone else. Sounds like she could use a friend 🙂
Post # 12
If she keeps making comments about comparing your wedding and hers or your ring and hers, I would laugh it off. If it keeps happening and it bothers you, make a joke like “oh are we competing, in that case bring it girlfriend haha” She might realize how she’s coming off. To echo what everyone else is saying: don’t confront her about her ring, I mean who cares it’s her ring and the more she tells people its something it’s not, the worse she’s going to feel. Also, it does seem she’s super insecure, so be supportive, but don’t let her put you down. Take the high road!
Post # 13
That is annoying, how can you enjoy her company if shes making this into a competition. I would try and spend less time with her.
Post # 14
i would just ignore her, people like her NEED to be ignored.
Post # 15
thanks for all the good advice. I deff. think that i will take the high road and shrug it off. i just had to vent to someone other then my fiance, because after all it is his bestfriends fiance that im having this problem with. I have tried to change the subject but it always comes back to money and how she is so much farther along in the planning proccessshe is, and then of course how her ring is SO much better than mine.
Post # 16
I would just ignore it. What matters is the marriage/relationship not the ring.