(Closed) frustrated and just need to vent

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
16 posts
  • Wedding: December 2010

don’t confront her. it doesn’t matter what her ring cost or whether it’s real. you really shouldn’t care. as long as she isn’t criticizing what you are doing, there’s no reason to open that can. smile and nod.

Post # 4
1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I woud try not to confront her about these but maybe just laugh it off to yourself.  If thats the story she wants to tell you then she is probably not going to change her story just because you confront her (“oh ok, you got me, my ring really is fake”). 

Maybe try to talk about stuff other than weddings. 

Post # 5
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t know if I would confront her but more or less, if she brings it up, perhaps don’t take her bait.  Just shake your head like you’re agreeing to whatever and let it roll off your shoulders.   Be the bigger person and don’t let it show her that it bothers you.

Also, why not start to discuss your wedding?

Post # 6
1373 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You can’t prove whether it’s real or fake, so why would you confront her? I really don’t see how it affects you whether her ring is real or not. If it’s real, good for her; if it makes her feel better to pretend it’s real, good for her. Just try to change the subject next time she brings it up if it bothers you that badly.

Post # 7
1206 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would suck it up and know that you’s will be more meaninful!

Post # 8
3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

1,500! haha thats laughable…i say let it go..she should let the ring speak for itself. the fact that she is bragging about the cost and the size says something right there…far from classy.

Post # 9
4460 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t confront her. It shouldn’t bother you that much. It shouldn’t turn into a competition. Don’t call her out on her claims. It may cause unneeded drama.

Post # 10
414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You think it’s a 2 ct. CZ? You should be able to tell at that size. It’s probably moissanite if you have trouble figuring it out. Price range fits.

But don’t let it bother you. If she’s bragging about price she probably is feeling insecure about it or something. No need to demonize her for it.

Post # 11
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

In the long run does it really matter? For some reason she has decided that she wants to make this a contest and I am sure that it is b/c she is insecure about herself or her wedding or something in her life and she is taking it out on you. If she is one of your only friends in your new city I think what you should really be doing is trying to support her, maybe if you focus on giving her praise for things (other than the ring) she won’t feel such a need to brag about her ring (real or not) to you and everyone else. Sounds like she could use a friend 🙂

Post # 12
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If she keeps making comments about comparing your wedding and hers or your ring and hers, I would laugh it off. If it keeps happening and it bothers you, make a joke like “oh are we competing, in that case bring it girlfriend haha” She might realize how she’s coming off. To echo what everyone else is saying: don’t confront her about her ring, I mean who cares it’s her ring and the more she tells people its something it’s not, the worse she’s going to feel. Also, it does seem she’s super insecure, so be supportive, but don’t let her put you down. Take the high road!

Post # 13
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That is annoying, how can you enjoy her company if shes making this into a competition. I would try and spend less time with her.

Post # 14
5165 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i would just ignore her, people like her NEED to be ignored.

Post # 16
2593 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just ignore it. What matters is the marriage/relationship not the ring.

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