(Closed) Frustrated at my BF last night for silliness and why proposals are important

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

ok a bathroom proposal is not a real proposal. I completely understand what you mean, my SO teases me about the whole thing but I know deep down he’s coming up with a wonderful plan to surprise me and propose. And as far as the ring goes, you could also look into Gemstones ๐Ÿ™‚ a friend of mine got a beautiful sapphire in her engagement ring, which opened my eyes to the world of color (and alot of them are cheaper than diamonds and still good quality) and I am waiting on a gorgeous tanzanite heart ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I know EXACTLY how you feel! Well, that’s a lie, THANKFULLY my Boyfriend or Best Friend fully understands the idea of a big proposal – I think it has something to do with the fact that we were both really active in theatre in high school and have a flair for the dramatic. Buuuuut as far as the moissy, I totally understand. I want the ring. I want the proposal. I want the story. I want the wedding. And I’ve read all the articiles about the “diamond invention” and how our obsession with diamond engagement rings in the US (and Japan) is a HUGE marketing ploy. I know diamonds aren’t scarce at all and the pricing is all based on fake scarcity create by De Beers. I know alllll about the unethical issues – blood diamonds, etc. Buuuuuut…there’s still something to be said for “the real thing”. We’re still looking at settings, and my Boyfriend or Best Friend won’t have his money moved around and sorted out for buying the ring until April/May, so I have some time. I really want to get on board with moissanite, but we’ll see…

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Woops, double post – sorry!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

“Why is it important to me that he plan something for a proposal and ask me when we already know we’re going to get engaged and when we’ll likely be picking out and paying for the ring together?”

Because asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you is not a simple thing. It is an act which deserves some ceremony. The traditional ceremony is the proposal; something thought out and sweet, something akin to the largeness of the question itself.

Why is singing happy birthday, wearing black to a funeral, Christmas trees or gradation ceremonies important? Why is getting on stage in a hired funny looking outfit, shaking hands with someone we’ve probably never met and getting a fake piece of paper (we got ours later) so important to us? Yet you rarely hear someone question another for wanting to attend their graduation.

People sometimes forget that weddings and engagements are traditions just as those above because of the “bridezilla” tag. It’s ok to want to have a romantic proposal; it’s also ok to not want it, just as sometimes we are requested to wear bright coloured clothes to a funeral.

And it’s ok to want a diamond; some people are just drawn to different types of stones. You like diamonds, simple. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I know what you mean! Boyfriend or Best Friend keeps making jokes about awful proposals ALL THE TIME! He was joking that he had planned this sumer cheezy with a side of extra cheese proposal at Disney (we went there in December). And I am sooooo not a Disney Proposal girl (if you are, that’s fine, it is just not my thing AT ALL).

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