- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Hey guys, I just want to know if I am overreacting or not to a situation I’ve been told about today. Sorry so long… A little back story:
I was asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man to an old high school friend who I haven’t spoken to frequently, but still love dearly. Her younger sister is her Maid/Matron of Honor and there are 2 other BMs, other than myself. About a month ago, at the bridal shower, I met these girls (and saw the Maid/Matron of Honor after almost 10 years! wow she grew up haha) and they were very nice. They know the bride through work and are very peppy and lively, which I love. They made conversation with me and wanted to get to know me so that, as the only Out of Town Bridesmaid or Best Man, I felt welcome. I really appreciated it.
They began discussing the bachelorette weekend and saying they weren’t sure where they were having it, but it would definitely be a weekend-long deal. Okay, that’s fine. We live in a state that caters to tourists and there are so many things to do. One of the ideas (by the MOH) was to stick around our own area, but to indulge in the nightlife in a big, touristy city (LOTS to do). I was all about that, because it meant I would only be driving about 1.5-2 hours to the destination, on top of hotel costs and the sort. The other idea that was pitched was to go out of state(!) for the weekend, which is 5-6 hours of driving from where they all live, plus an added 1.5-2 hours for me to get to them in order to road trip. After some discussion of finances (I haven’t started my nursing job, yet, and the Maid/Matron of Honor will be unemployed this Fall), I thought we had agreed on staying in state.
After several weeks of me Facebook messaging them to get updates on hotels and when to be where and hearing NO answers, I get a text today from the Maid/Matron of Honor saying that the others girls have planned a whole weekend at the out of state location and just told her today! I was shocked. Not only that they kept the Maid/Matron of Honor in the dark, but that they knew I was trying to get info all this time, but didn’t give any indication of their thoughts until 5 days before the event. It will be much more expensive to drive all the way up there, not to mention the hours I would lose having to leave work early on Friday to get to them in time.
It does sound like a lot of fun, but I’m really debating on whether or not I can go. I still have not heard details, just that a girl who isn’t even in the bridal party and one of the BMs have planned this and they will get back to us on the specifics. My SO would like to know where I’m going, too, I should think!
Sorry so long, I’m just kind of frustrated and feeling left out just because I’m an Out of Town Bridesmaid or Best Man. Sorry to pout… lol. Am I overreacting? I haven’t reacted negatively to anyone, as I want to keep the peace. I did voice some frustration about being kept in the dark to the Maid/Matron of Honor, but she was, too. Any words would be much appreciated 🙁