(Closed) Frustrated by all the breastfeeding negativity

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@UK Bride:  I’m not a mom yet but I know that the decision whether or not to breastfeed is such a hugely personal thing, and I’m sorry that your fam and friends aren’t more supportive πŸ™ in their own way, I’m sure it’s coming from a place of concern, but you shouldn’t have to justify this decision to anyone. I think it’s great that you’ve made a commitment to trying it even if it might be difficult, and however it ends up for you and your babies, your loved ones should be backing you up on this decision. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks and just know that you’re doing what you think is best for your little ones. Good luck πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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748 posts
Busy bee

Man, that is such a personal choice.  I don’t think anyone should be telling you in advance what YOU should do with YOUR babies.  It sounds like they’re trying to help by giving advice, but it’s totally not their business really.  I mean, if none of those women have had twins, how would they know anyway?  

FWIW, my mother was/is totally against breastfeeding as she didn’t do it with me and my brother, and she doesn’t see a reason for it at all.  Now that Darling Husband and I are ttc, I get the talk from her pretty frequently how breastfeeding is too much work, you’re a slave to your kids, you can’t go anywhere, etc etc.  And I always just smile and take a deel breath and say, ok Mom whatever.  πŸ™‚  

My advice: do your own thing.  You and your babies will figure it out!  πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

In a normal case, you will produce as much milk as your baby or babies demand and with the time it takes to prepare, clean etc… bottles, you’ll likely save time and energy by breast feeding! You’re making a good choice, mama. Just wait until you can laugh at the nay sayers. I hope those babies latch like champs from day one and show everyone ;). It just sucks that your mom and Mother-In-Law are not being supportive of your decision.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sorry that people are gettin’ ya down! One of my friends  was able to successfully breastfeed her twins for the first 18 months of their lives! she needed the assistance of a lactation consultant and said it was tricky at the beginning but she got  the hang of it. DH’s  cousin  also breastfed her twins for 12 months, and they latched  right away  with no problems at all!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My good friend had twin girls and she double breastfed both babies.  She said it was hard work, but she did it!  It took about two hours and then they would be hungry again by the time she finished.  She had help from her mom so she could rest, but she did it.  It is totally doable!  It was worth it.  Don’t get discouraged.  That stinks that they are being negative.  That doesn’t help anyone.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I’m sorry; I know it’s really hard to have people criticize your choices all the time. Unfortunately, breastfeeding is just the beginning of it… All your parenting choices will be scrutinized by people who have your best interest at heart and they really think they can help.. Just trust in your decisions and don’t talk about it with people.

I may not sound much encouraging, I’m sorry about that…

I think you will not be the first mom to breastfeed twin and it’s doable. You’ll be great!

I only had one, and breastfeeding was HARD at first, but we pulled through and after the first week, it went well. I would recommend that you don’t throw away that can of formula yet. Not to feed your twins formula all the time. But for us, at first, I couldn’t produce enough milk for our son and it was really, really difficult and we had to supplement him after each feeding. I would breastfeed, then Darling Husband would use a syringe and a tube taped to his finger to supplement with formula until our son gained back some weight and my milk came in. I can’t imagine having to get to the store and buy the formula at that time. It’s good to have it on hand.

Best of luck!

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@UK Bride:  I am so sorry you aren’t being properly supported.  It’s much more supported here in the US. Hospitals are starting to ban formula companies from providing samples and coupons to send home from the hospital with new moms.

Do you have access to lactation consultants?  They can encourage you and cheer you on when you have rough days (which will happen espcially with twins.)

Just bear in mind that you can do it.  Moms do it every day all over the world.  The benefits of breast feeding for at least the first 6 months to a year of your baby’s life are vast.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry people aren’t being more supportive! Some people are just negative and always looking for the rain instead of the silver lining. I’m sure you will do the best you can for your twins (baby twins, how exciting :-)!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My good friend successfully breast fed her twins! Your body can handle it. She said it was really weird having two different babies sucking at the same time, ha!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@UK Bride: Ah bless ya. All you can do is try and I’m sure that’s worth an applause with twins πŸ˜‰

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@UK Bride:  There’s been a lot of backlash against the interventions in recent years, too!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

@UK Bride:  people told me I wouldn’t be able to breastfeed my one baby for a whole year so I can only imagine what people are telling you. Ignore them!! Breastfeeding is best for you and for your baby. I know moms who breastfed twins and they did just fine. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@UK Bride:  During my parents’ and grandparents’ generations, hospitals and doctors advised that formula was best because it provided all of the necessary nutrients and was easier and better for moms and babies than breastfeeding.  Now that multiple studies are coming out showing the benefits of breastfeeding, some hospitals are banning the formula companies in order to better support breastfeeding.

When my mom came home from the hospital in the 80s only hippies breastfed per her.  Everyone else fed formula (which I promptly spit up and has gastrointestinal issues with because it wasn’t breastmilk.)  When she brought home my sister in 2001, they advocated breastfeeding but sent home a free(!) diaper bag sponsored by a formula company and full of free samples of formula as well as coupons for formula.  The message was try breastfeeding but when you fail or it gets tough, here’s some formula because you know you’re going to need it.

The moms I know that have been the most successful with breastfeeding did not give themselves an out with formula.  They tossed or refused the free samples and used a lactation consultant as well as online support groups made up of other breastfeeding mommies.

Moms that choose formula are not bad moms but breastfeeding moms shouldn’t be told they are wrong either.

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