(Closed) Frustrated by friends

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2889 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Aww I am sorry. They aren’t being really good friends right now are they? You have been a true friend to them listening to their highs and lows and loving and supporting them where they are at. You deserve that kind of friend too. Maybe they will come to their senses and see they are not being fair. At the same time this may be a good time to broaden your circle of friends. Set out to develop new friendships. It takes an investment of time to develop new friendships but it is so worth the effort. One can never have to many friends.

I am currently in the developing new friendships mode. Through the course of my divorce I learned that many people I thought of as friends were not really friends. So though I am friendly towards them I no longer invest a lot of time in those relationships. I choose to invest time in relationships I think will be more supportive. It sucks how major life events shows us who are true friends really are.

Congratulations on your marriage! I am glad married life is all you hoped it would be.

Post # 4
2853 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This sounds like it’s them, not you, and it’s not fair for them to bring you down.

It might be good to step back and give them time to figure out how to not let their issues creep into their responses to your life. And in the mean time, maybe find some new friends? Not sure where you are geographically but even if there’s not a lot nearby, you’d be surprised the number of social groups you can find on a place like meetup.

And then once your friends get adjusted, maybe you can resume things.

Post # 5
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have been a long-time lurker and seriously just made an account to respond to this thread.  I know exactly how you feel!  When I got engaged, a few of my closest friends were not happy for me at all, and it has caused a huge rift.  One even told me she needed a little break from our friendship because she couldn’t handle everyone asking me about the proposal and wanting to see the ring.  I am a pretty shy person and I never brought it up on my own.  


I’m still struggling with it like you are, but it really is their problem–not yours.  I hope you’ll find new friends who can be happy for you like you are for them in good times. 

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