Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
So, it’s getting down to the wire now. We’re getting married in about 14 weeks. I’ve basically done just about everything on my own. My bridesmaids did help me pick out my wedding dress, venue, and their bridesmaids dresses.
My fiancee’ got home from Kuwait about three weeks ago. We visited the venue this past week to firm up more details. During the meeting, my fiancee played with his cell phone the majority of the time. It sort of embarrassed me and hurt my feelings at the same time. He seemed to have no opinion about anything or take any interest in anything, other than price. I know he loves me and wants to marry me. I just need some assistance. I have asked for his assistance but he just doesn’t have any interest in the details and to be honest, I’m losing interest in planning, as well.
My fiance’s family is from Vietnam and his mother is a florist. She is helping with the flowers. The Picasso Calla Lilly flowers I like, she can not get. So, I am going to find them and order them. Today, we went to Hobby Lobby and Michaels in an attempt to find centerpieces and possibly flowers. We can use the venue’s centerpieces. To use the venues’s decor which includes 14 linens, centerpieces, and chair covers for the reception cost 600 bucks. My fiancee wants to look around and see if we can other centerpieces we’d rather have, that we get to keep or can give away to our family after the wedding. Unfortunately, Hobby Lobby didn’t have squat I liked today. This is rare, since I normally like most of their stuff. Michael’s seemed to have better quality items. I took my fiancee to Hobby Lobby and Michael’s with me and he continued to show no interest in planning or helping me flowers. My mother is deceased, and my grandmother really isn’t able to help with these details. My bridesmaids are just too busy right now. I managed to put this together with the florist today but I’m not 100 percent sure about it. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
I like the flowers but something about the arrangement seems strange to me. What are the reed type things in the background? Those seem to be a bit distracting.
I’m sorry that you feel like you aren’t getting any help. I think you should talk to your Fiance and find out what he would like to help plan. Not all guys really want to do the details like flowers and table linens.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: It could be the other flowers in the store. The ones in my hand are just the green hydrangea looking flowers, purple calla lillies and peacock feathers. There’s no red ones in my hand.
Yeah, I don’t expect him to help me with every detail. I’m just frustrated and tired and this point. I told him how I felt. I’m not sure if that will change anything or not, lol.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
I think the reeds that MissAsB is reffering to are actually the peacock feathers as they are kind of side on. Is peacock feathers a big theme in your wedding? I also prefer the arrangement without them as the other flowers look similar height or maybe if you want to use them you could set them lower so they dont poke up too high (just IMO). I like the colours of the flowers though.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
@traveller: Okay, I didn’t understand. Yes, I am having a peacock theme. The florist put the flowers and feathers I picked out together. I sort of like them sticking up a bit but I do think they are off center.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
I’m from Charlotte also and my wedding is in April! I unfortunately also have had zero help… :(. I’m sort of stressing out at this point! If you need anything or even just a second eye , send me a message! I am using milkglass centerpieces…not sure if it goes with your theme or how many guests you’re having but the offer is there!
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
@Tiffner: That’s awesome! We’re actually getting married in Indy but we live here. I’d love to have someone to shop with for these things.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
I’d let your Fiance take something else over, like catering or the music. I don’t know many guys who would be into the flowers as much.
Do you have a Sam’s Club membership? They have Picasso Calla Lilies available in bulk:
http://www.samsclub.com/sams/calla-lily-picasso-60-stems/prod6380145.ip
http://www.samsclub.com/sams/calla-lily-picasso-50-stems/prod6380144.ip
http://www.wholeblossoms.com/flowers/picasso-calla-lilies-413.html
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
@Anise: Yes, thank you, I came across that very same link today when looking for the Picasso Calla Lillies. I forwarded it to my Future Mother-In-Law, so hopefully she can advice me. It’s not easy though, since she lives 600 miles away and we have a language barrier. She does speak English but I have difficulty understanding her and I think she has difficulty understanding me also. I have asked him to take something over. He did get the officiant, who is military, since he is, as well. We went together with his groomsmen to get the tuxes. One of his groomsmen knows a good DJ. I asked him to get the DJ’s number, which he did do but hasn’t called him yet. Hopefully, things will come together.
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
I personally think once the flowers are arranged and in vases its going to look really nice. And when you get them put together you can always take our the feathers if they seem off to you. And trust me my husband seemed to take NO interest AT ALL in our wedding. People say that the first year of marriage is the hardest in a relationship… I say its planning the wedding. I don’t think my husband and I have ever fought more that when we were planning the wedding. He didn’t have any interest or voice his opinion and that would upset me and it would cause an arguement. For 8 months straight! Ugg. I even tried to give him jobs like making sure the music was taken care of, and guess who did that…. yup, me. However, this is EXTREMELY common from articles ive read and from what the other bees have told me. So your definatly not alone! All us bees are here any time with advice and opinions!
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
@hollykirsten I glad to see this behavior isn’t uncommon for guys. I’m sure I’ll be around soon with more questions or feedback on ideas. Thanks so much for the support.:-)
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