@cmbr: I know. I know. I keep thinking the same, it’s just hard because I’ve now been planning with her since January… And above that, I just keep thinking about the DAY of the wedding. My venue is very barren, and is going to need quite bit of setup plus someone to set up decor, I’ve been relying on her to do all of this stuff.
@PacificMrs: I haven’t tried talking to the photographer directly yet. Hes very difficult to contact, I emailed him a couple weeks ago about our engagement shoot (this is before we decided to forgo it) and he never got back to me.
@Astra: a big part of me wants to do just that, dump em’ and move forward…but I dunno, I. Just having a tough time pulling the trigger on that one. Planning this wedding with this planner is all I’ve known, I feel like if I just fire them, I’m going to feel ever more overwhelmed plus saddened that I won’t grave this photographer, who’s work I really love…I just wish he’d be a little more reasonable.
@Mrs Darling: ya. It’s probably a very similar “kick-back” situation over here too.
I think my main issue (now that I’m writing it all out, it’s making more sense) I’ve gotten comfortable with having a “coordinator” I’m nervous about just letting her go for a few reasons, one being emotional, I think when I first got engaged, I struggled with the fact, that I didn’t feel much support or excitement from anyone (except for my mom and maybe 1 or 2 friends) all of my friends are in different places in their life. Most of my bridal party is single or already married. My friends aren’t the type who will “excitedly” go dress shopping or talk about decor and decorations and logistics. I think I was feeling really down and just wanted someone who I could talk about wedding stuff and guide me through how to plan this whole thing. That’s when I hired my planner, In a time of self-pity and a little bit of blatantly just wanting someone to talk about all the details with….even if I had to pay them…to talk, listen, and care. It makes me cry to even write this.
so now I have this planner, it’s nine months later. she’s been basically helping me and talking to me this whole time.
Im pissed though, I’m pissed at myself mainly though. I really, really wanna be able to trust this woman, everything she says, and all the times she says “I got your back” “don’t worry about anything” meanwhile, I just don’t know if we’re gonna be able to do this whole thing for our $20,000 budget. I’ve had some recent conversations with her, where she seemed to feel confident that we’d be able to stay within budget.
I really don’t want give up this photographer though, like I said above, I already have a deep emotional attachment to this photographers work. I just don’t wanna be getting played for a fool. I know that my photographer and coordinator are friends, but they even have the same EXACT line about “feeding their vendor” in the their contracts…so to me that’s kinda weird.