Post # 1
So my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were talking about weddings and etc last night (HE BROUGHT IT UP, after watching the WEDDING PLANNER, and WEDDING DATE lol!) and he wants to get married JULY 5th 2014! He says that way he will have his car, and other items completely paid for by then. Im so frustrated with him because he got me the “I LOVE YOU RING” and then he wants to drag out an engagement for that long. I dont want to wait that long. Im so confused. and annoyed. We live together, and now Im starting to think if he’s getting comfortable with us living UNMARRIED that he’s prolonging the wedding. I have even brought up the fact of just going somewhere to get married- just the two of us. . I want to say something to him about it, without causing a fight. How should I approach the situation? Sorry to ramble I hope this all makes sense lol!
Post # 3
He gave you a date that happens to be after he pays off everything else. It sounds to me like he’s attempting to have all other debts paid off before going through with the most expensive party of your lives. I wouldn’t take offense to this, but if this is farther than you were hoping for, then yeah, you should have a calm, friendly, non-aggressive conversation with him about what you want.
Post # 4
*UPDATE*: We just talked and we’ve changedit to JULY 6, 2013. MUCH BETTER LOL 🙂
Post # 5
Well I just saw this now, but I’m glad you talked and worked it out so that you’re both on the same page!
Post # 6
Wow! You shaved off a whole year! Can I give you my bf’s number? Congratulations!
Post # 7
Just make sure you keep in mind what is important to you and make sure your communicate it to your SO. If you just want to be married, you don’t have to wait til 2013 but if you have a very expensive wedding planned and you have financial commitments, then def wait.
Or just elope, and have the fancy wedding in 2013.2014 😉
Post # 8
I’m having a long engagement (I’m in the UK and he’s in the USA). We’re both still in school, and he’ll be finishing after me so I don’t plan on moving over until I’m 22 or 23. I’d rather it were that way than not doing it properly.
But way to go on the date change! Keep us updated on the planning, and let us know when he pops the question 😉
Post # 9
I extra triple promise I’m asking this out of genuine curiousity and not snark (I know its hard to tell people’s tone on teh interwebz…so I just wanted to preface it)…
but what is the idea/point/thought process behind picking a specific wedding date that far in advance- and not even being engaged yet?
Post # 10
@mandypop: I can’t speak for OP but for me, personally, I long to set a date for my (probably 2014) wedding. That may seem ridiculous to you, and it definitely seems ridiculous to my SO, but I am looking forward to our wedding so much already and I just want to know when it is that I’m actually looking forward to. It makes it seem more real, maybe, when I think about actual, real dates on a calendar. I don’t have one set though.
Post # 11
@Mochabarbie26: Thats not long to wait at all, you should have plenty of planning to keep you busy until 2013. I agree 2014 was a bit too long to wait, go you for shaving off a whole year off his timeline, haha!