(Closed) Frustrated- HELP!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What are his reasons for rejecting them? This sounds so bizarre to me….he can’t have it both ways, either he is involved in the planning or he’s not. How frustrating for you! 

Post # 5
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971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’d give him three “choices” – your top vendor choice and two vendors who are priced far higher than the vendor you want.  That way, how can he say no to the vendors you want as their prices will be lower?  Devious but you’ll save your sanity!

Post # 6
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608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think it sounds like you two need to sit down and have a serious discussion about budget.  I think if you were on the same page as far as budget there would be less back and forth.  I think you should break the budget down by area as in $400 for flowers or whatever and then you can move forward with plans.

Post # 7
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374 posts
Helper bee

Sit down w/him and prepare a total budget.  Then try to divide the budget into percentages.  Ask him how he feels about moving figures around, but staying in the proposed budget.

Look at all the planning as FUN.  Enjoy the process.  Do it with a friend.  Go looking around.  At least he’s willing to pay for it.  Some men just don’t get into this kind of stuff.

Ask him what is important to him.  Cigar bar?  Open bar?  Steak?  DJ vs band?

Then work within those parameters and the budget. 

Keep in touch and let us know how it’s going!!

Post # 8
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@BanditGirl: I agree. Men sometimes want to make the decisions so let him. Something like, “okay I have narrowed down to 3 limo services (insert brief summary and prices for each). Which one do you want to use, honey?” Mention that one of them is the best price in the area, but you will be with out this this and this, but it is still a good deal. If he thinks you are sacrificing something for one that is more affordable, he will most likely appreciate that.  Good luck, hang in there

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