(Closed) frustrated (long post)

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
Member
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well, a friend of mine eloped, lived with his wife two years, then had his wedding.  So that the family thought they had to live together first.  Mind you, they had far less compelling reasons, but it could work for you…

Post # 4
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411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I have many friends and family members that have gotten married at a courthouse, and then had a big wedding on their first anniversary. While normally I am very pro-living together before marriage (because, coming out of a 5 year LDR – you really DONT know someone until you live near/with them – it takes a lot of adjusting), in your case, this might not be possible. Is there are way, seeing as you’re unemployed anyway, to “vaca” to the US for a few months?

Post # 6
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7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Is he able to move to be with you? I know it’s super hard to immigrate to the US, or even to get a green card, and have heard from a few friends who’ve gone through the process (as the result of being in American-Canadian relationships) that it’s easier to get into Canada.

Why are you the one jumping through all the hoops? 🙂

Post # 7
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry for your troubles.  I think I would consider eloping (which still might take a while to get you into the country) or having him move to Canada like DDW suggested.

Post # 9
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh sweetie, don’t be upset! Things will work out. Just remember to breath. You can always get married on paper but still “date” or be “engaged”. The paper makes things official, yes, but until you have the wedding ceremony and reception people dont have to know.

This will allow you to enter the country, get a job in NYC, move in with him or find an apartment and most of all, appease your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law.

Good luck!

Post # 10
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What a frustrating process! I would say make it a legal marriage and then do the party marriage when everyone is on board. It may not be your dream, but at least you can be with your Fiance.

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