Post # 1
I was just curious as to whether or not anybody else out there is seriously frustrated by the lack of what seems like interest in RSVPing? Granted, we sent out the invites only a little over a week, ago, but about 95% of our guests are local and received the invite the following day (I know because mom called and also because we received immediate responses, as well). So, here we are, and we have received back count it… don’t hold your breath… 6 response cards, two of which are from our parents. I just feel so annoyed (and kind of hurt), as we put in SO much energy to make sure that the invitations were printed beatifully, early enough to allow everybody enough time, and that the response cards (and their envelopes) contained a stamp so each guest would just have to write their name and send it back to us. Thank goodness I didn’t go through the tedium of physcially printing THEIR own return address… glad I didn’t waste the time!!
I realize that everybody beats to the rhythm of their own drum, and that we all don’t make an effort to keep up with our mail, but why are people so rude? I am trying not to allow this who situation to get to me, or to really kind of piss me off (which it has), but I’m hurt. I know I shouldn’t be, but I am… we worked so hard on our invites and is it really THAT hard to send back a tiny envelope that already has a stamp on it?? SHEESH!!!
I haven’t attended a ton of weddings in my day, but I know that for those people I have, I made an effort to send the card immediately back. But that’s just met
Post # 3
What day did you put as your “Please respond by” date? Honestly, I usually wait until closer to that date myself unless I 100% know I’m able to make the wedding. I wouldn’t start getting frustrated yet – at least give them until the date you indicated.
Post # 4
i feel ya – im 3 weeks away and i think i have recieved a quarter of them back. our send by date is feb 1st so not much longer till i have to start calling around.
try not to stress too much and enjoy when they come in. i call my mom everyday – did we get any – who? and sometimes there aren’t any and it makes me a little sad but no reason to get upset or stresssed. you still have so much time!
Turn your attention to other projects to take your mind off of these
Post # 5
Yup. Apparently even a pre-stamped envelope is too hard to toss back in the mail. Our close friends, knowing I was stressed out enough as it was, were excellent at RSVPing, but our families’ replies trickled in as slow as molasses.
What kills me is that none of FI’s distant Italian relatives, who would have kicked up a huge fuss if they weren’t invited as a courtesy, are coming, and therefore decided not to RSVP at all. So Future Mother-In-Law is having to phone them all up and double-check that they won’t be there so that we can have accurate numbers. What a waste of perfectly good (and beautiful) postage!
Post # 6
You got more back in those 6 days then I did when I was going through this! lol Now to be fair, I did get responses back after sending out our STD’s (SOME!), but yeah, the local people seemed to all wait until the very last minute and tbh, those were the ones I had to call/visit/hunt down to get an answer from.
I was so excited when I sent out the invites, but got ZERO responses for nearly 2 weeks after. It was soooo frustrating!
And yeah… it does seem to be that hard. I had so many people tell me, “Oh! I kept forgetting to put it in the mail” or “Oh you needed that? You knew I was going to come!”… *sigh* lol