- 9 years ago
This is my first post on here as the message boards have been a great source of information but I think I have reached my limit here. My best friend from HS is getting married next week and I’m to the point where part of me doesn’t want to get on that plane. I have been by her side throughout the years watching her plan her perfect wedding. Well, I went away to college and she found a new friend that she hangs out with, etc.. I’m perfectly fine with that. What I’m not fine about was the new friend duplicated the bride’s custom DIY invitations for her wedding last year forcing the bride to change the whole invitation. The bride was furious but after a while thought it would be best to let go. When the bride got engaged, she kept struggling as to who to choose as her Maid/Matron of Honor. So, since her college friend was married and I’m not – she decided to do the maid/matron titles. Now since then the Matron has decided to go and take over all the duties and the bride seems fine with it since she doesn’t return my calls very often. I decided to plan a batchelorette party for the bride with some of our high school friends. The matron sent a ‘friendly’ reminder to all of us in the wedding party which included my email with details – spoiling the party for the bride. She was even trying to take over the planning of the party from me when I was in the hospital. This was the first time I was hearing the details of the wedding and it’s only a week away even though I have been contacting the bride like crazy. I keep feeling like I am left out of the loop, replaced, and that my title is just so that my feelings would not get hurt. I have been advised to just let her go and do everything and not worry about it. I’m not sure what to think or do at this point. When I was admitted in the hospital after I had just had major surgery 3 weeks before, the bride called me up and seemed more concerned about if I would be well enough to make it to the wedding and that I could fit into my dress than how I was doing. I know she’s getting extremely stressed but it’s like I lost my friend. I keep trying to do what I can but it’s as if my help is not needed or wanted by either of them. Any advice would be most appreciative even if it’s to tell me to get over it or it’s nothing. Thanks!