(Closed) Frustrated MOH

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you do?
    Nothing - carry on as if nothing happened : (8 votes)
    57 %
    Confront the Matron of Honor : (2 votes)
    14 %
    Talk to the bride : (4 votes)
    29 %
    Not go to the wedding : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling… so many of us here get caught up in the "bride’s side" we forget what it’s like to be in the party. With the wedding a week away, I can imagine things are pretty crazy with the bride right now. Personally, I would suck it up, go to the wedding and participate as planned, but just "go with the flow". Since MatronOH Bossy Mc’InCharge has decided to take over planning, psh, let her have it. And the stress that goes along with. Have a cup of tea, enjoy the time you get to see your friend, and let her handle any little fires that pop up with planning.


    As for your relationship with your friend (the bride), it may be that this piggish behavior by the Matron of Honor has stressed her out to the max. As a bride who feels forced to include a relative in her bridal party, I definitely understand that! If, after the honeymoon, your friends goes back to normal (she should call and thank you profusely for your time and energy) and your friendship resumes as it was pre-wedding, I would just chalk it up to wedding craziness. If not, then I would think about phazing out the friendship. But I wouldn’t make any big decisions like the week before. You’ll have guilt, and the bride will likely not see it coming. 

    Post # 4
    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    So many times on here the brides are complaining about their MOHs.  We as humans have a tendency to be a little selfish sometimes, and the wedding is definitely one of those times.  I would chalk her behavior up to temporary insanity that she will probably apologize for later.  Just support as best you can and don’t worry about it.  I’m sure she’ll be better after the wedding (and her Matron of Honor is probably over-obsessing on things she wishes she could have had for her own wedding, so ignore that too).  Let it roll off your back, your the raisin in a can of nuts.

    Post # 5
    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

    I agree that you should just let it be for now.  The wedding is so close.  Let her other Maid/Matron of Honor take on the work, if they’re jsut oging on without you.  Just be sure to not take any orders from her at the wedding.  Eek, did I say that out loud?

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