(Closed) frustrated n ready to give up on the wedding thing

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I completely understand the stress of planning a wedding around the military, many bees here do as well. I have the utmost sympathy.

The important thing to remember here is you’re already married!!! That’s the important part and it’s a wonderful thing. A VR is really just icing on the cake.

If you feel like a VR on your third anniversary is what’s going to work for you, then take that and run with it. Keep it small to eliminate drama, if that’s a factor. If going to HI is a point of contention for your family would it be something in your hometown? Planning from a distance is tough but not at all impossible.

I totally understand wanting “your day” but keep perspective on this. It’s not the end of the world if you end up not doing a VR, or if it’s not working right now. There’s no pressure to do it. If you decide your anniversary is the best time then stay steadfast in your decision and start planning for that. Your families will come around.

Post # 5
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@travelsize: I don’t think anyone reading it thinks you’re talking down the Navy. My Fiance is Navy as well, and it’s not always rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes it sucks, there’s no denying that. It’s not unnatural to be frustrated with the lack of control you have over your life. I get that, and I think most bees would as well. I didn’t see malice in your post, I saw frustration. Also, I didn’t mean to be condescending, if that vibe came through in my post. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk 🙂

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