Post # 1
long story as short as i can make it is my self n SO got legally married a year ago while he was home on leave he is in th enavy which is the root of all my problems. we wanted to have a formall weddign wiht all our family n friends. now that seems like its never goign to happen. thanks to the lovely navy i cant set a date becasue we are changign station in a few months n he deloys the beginign of next year. we are originally from cali but will b living in Hi (im acutally really excited about that) so planning a weddign in cali would b very dificult. we have tryed comign up wtih different ways to try to include our families since alot of them where sour on how we did things but i just dont see how. if we dont have a weddign this year it just seems like too akward of a time ie 3 year anniversary. but finantially n time wise this year doesnt look like its goign to work out. im just not sure what to do. though both of us woud love to have a weddign its gettign to the point where i just want to say forget it..
Post # 3
I completely understand the stress of planning a wedding around the military, many bees here do as well. I have the utmost sympathy.
The important thing to remember here is you’re already married!!! That’s the important part and it’s a wonderful thing. A VR is really just icing on the cake.
If you feel like a VR on your third anniversary is what’s going to work for you, then take that and run with it. Keep it small to eliminate drama, if that’s a factor. If going to HI is a point of contention for your family would it be something in your hometown? Planning from a distance is tough but not at all impossible.
I totally understand wanting “your day” but keep perspective on this. It’s not the end of the world if you end up not doing a VR, or if it’s not working right now. There’s no pressure to do it. If you decide your anniversary is the best time then stay steadfast in your decision and start planning for that. Your families will come around.
Post # 4
Thanks I actually felt really childish after reading what I wrote. After talking with my sister I realize what important is that my self n my husband are happy n our families want to b there for us. I know I don’t have to meet any deadlines so its ok to wait to do a nice VR when the time is right. I have requested for this thread to b deleted I don’t like that it sounds to me like I’m talking down about the navy that has actually been a blessing in our lives. Thanks again
Post # 5
@travelsize: I don’t think anyone reading it thinks you’re talking down the Navy. My Fiance is Navy as well, and it’s not always rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes it sucks, there’s no denying that. It’s not unnatural to be frustrated with the lack of control you have over your life. I get that, and I think most bees would as well. I didn’t see malice in your post, I saw frustration. Also, I didn’t mean to be condescending, if that vibe came through in my post. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk 🙂