Post # 1
So my sister (my MOH) has been working really hard to plan my bachelorette party. My parents just recently bought a retirement home near the beach in St. Mary’s, GA and they’re letting us stay there (yay free lodging for a beach weekend over the 4th of July!)
So my sister sent invites out to my 5 other bridesmaids and 10 other good friends (the majority of whom are in Atlanta – driving distance from St. Mary’s). The RSVPs have come back and a grand total of 3 people said yes (plus my sister and I for a total of 5).
Needless to say, I’m really bummed. After graduating from college (in Atlanta) I moved out to CA for job training for 10 months and am now living in TX. I don’t get to see my college friends very much as we live so far apart so I was really looking forward to hanging out with everyone for the weekend.
And the reasoning my sister kept getting over and over and over – its too expensive! What?!?! Free lodging, drive down with friends splitting gas, its free to hang out at the beach – what’s so expensive about it? You can’t get much cheaper than that!! My sister and I are both buying $400+ plane tickets to fly in so that it could be driving distance for most everyone else.
Plus I feel bad for my sister because she put in all this time figuring everything out and now so few people are coming. I know I’ll have fun with the few who will be there (they’re all BMs) but its still a little frustrating.
Anyone else have a similar situation with their bachelorette party?
Post # 3
That really is a bummer – sorry all of your friends are flaking out! Not all of my friends/BMs made it to my bachelorette party either, and while I was fine with it, I ended up only having about 7 girls out including me. They all had very good excuses, but it doesn’t help when you’re looking forward to something so much and are disappointed when they don’t come. It’s not like I was mad at them for not coming, you’re just let down. So, I know how you feel.
Just keep your chin up and have a fabulous time with the girls who are coming! Your sister will put together an awesome weekend for you, so try to enjoy it with those who are coming!
Post # 4
Aw, I’m sorry you’re bummed. But on the bright side, you might have a better time with fewer girls. You’ll really get to bond and spend quality time with the girls that are there.
Post # 5
This is nonsense! You’re friends need to step up. It’s not like you are asking them to fly to Vegas (or anywhere). My Maid/Matron of Honor was having a similar issue but was trying to keep me outta it so I don’t know the entire story. Just focus on the good time you will soon have with those that care/matter the most. Sounds like a great weekend!
Post # 6
I suspect the cost issue may just be an excuse. You mentioned that it was over the 4th of July weekend, so it’s possible that people already have other plans with their own families or something. I know I’m busy that weekend with my family. Maybe they just told your Maid/Matron of Honor that cost was the reason because they thought it would look worse to say they have plans.
I am sorry you’re dealing with this, but don’t worry. Five is still a party. I had the same number at my Bachelorette Party and it was a lot of fun. And I’m sure you guys will still have fun too!
Post # 7
I agree that 4th of July weekend may already be booked up. That is a 3 day weekend so its a time that I usually try to take a trip or vacation if I can pull it off.
Did the invites say that it was free? Did you give them an estimated cost or agenda? Maybe they were thinking you were planning on activities and eating out which over 3 days can be expensive even if the lodging is free.
Post # 8
My sister broke down the cost/agenda on the invites so everyone knew we aren’t planning on doing anything expensive – no fancy dinners, no bar hopping, free lodging, etc. She wanted to make sure everyone was fully informed of everything!
And when my sister was just starting her planning, everyone had recommended the holiday weekend as it would allow us more time (especially with my sister and I having to fly in from IN and TX respectively – although it ups our costs since flights are more expensive). I know two of the girls have plans with family – they told me that and that’s fine, totally understand.
Like I said – I know I’ll have fun with the 4 other girls who will be there but I’m still kind of bummed I won’t be able to spend time with other people I haven’t seen in a while.
Post # 9
out of like 30 people(4 of which were bridesmaids) i had 8(including myself) show up for games, snacks and drinks(2 of which aren’t even MY friends), 4(including myself) go to the dancing class that was set up, and 3 of us(including myself) go out on the town and dance the night away… i feel ya, people suck!
Post # 10
That’s stinks. I would be hurt to especially since it’s practically free, but I can also see the other side of it being that maybe they had other plans or prior commitments before they knew about your party?
Post # 11
That sucks more aren’t coming. 🙁 I think it may be due to the July 4th weekend too. Well, have fun with those that are there. Make the best of it and have a blast!!!! 🙂
Post # 12
I totally hear you about being bummed. For my bachelorette party, we were supposed to do a slumber party after a night out on the town and the girls were going to sleep over at my place, but they all decided to just go home after wards. I was really disappointed because the night ended up ending around 11:30, and I had pictured us all in our pjs sleeping out in the extra bedroom and chatting until the wee hours. So I was definitely bummed.
And I know that I’d be bummed in your situation too. Especially if many of them suggested the 4th of July, they knew AHEAD of time that that’s when it was happening, so they shouldn’t have made other plans. The “it’s too expensive” excuse is really lame when it’s only costing them the cost of gas and some food. So sorry that your girls are flaking on you. 🙁
Post # 13
I think you guys will still have an awesome time. I often find you end up have the craziest times with the smallest group of people rather than the largest. My friends are spread all across Canada so it is very doubtful I will get the bachelorette I would really want but I know the people that do show will have the best time ever. It sucks when people are flakey but don’t let that get you down. I know you are going to have a great time regardless.
Post # 14
Thanks for the encouraging words everyone – I’m just trying to look on the bright side and I’m definitely still excited about a weekend of relaxing on the beach! Plus – 1 month from today I’ll be a married woman!
Post # 15
You picked a good number-17!!! My two weddings were 11/17/09 (India) and 4/17/10 (U.S.) so 17 is my new lucky number. 🙂
Post # 16
Have a great time with those who value you enough to come to something everyone essentially committed to earlier!
And yay for the 17th brides! 3 months from today!