Frustrated Newlywed…Sex

posted 2 months ago in Intimacy
Post # 16
47203 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Expecting to master a new skill within a few days is totally unrealistic. Can you think of any other skill you mastered in a few tries?

I suggest you not watch porn as a learning technique. It’s totally fake, completely insensitive to women’s needs, and likely to give him an inferiority complex .

I suggest that you both simply commit to finding what pleasures your partner. Each of you needs to get comfortable telling your partner what you like, what you don’t like and what makes you feel good.

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Post # 17
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I say put the viagra down and play. Learn each otherʻs bodies, playing, touching, feeling, what feels good, what doesnʻt, SLOWLY. Maybe introduce a small non-threatening toy to see what it really might take to O.

Post # 18
465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Some women have trouble orgasming during sex without a vibrator for the clitoral stimulation, so that’s something to try as well. 

Post # 19
1611 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Yeah it took me years to have an orgasm. Not surprised it hasn’t happened for you in a few DAYS. At your stage I was still bleeding/in pain from sex. 

Slow down and try to figure out what feels good. Also, lube.

Post # 20
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I’ve been having sex for like 25 years and I still can’t orgasm from regular sex. It doesn’t bother me, it still feels good and I can orgasm from a vibrator in seconds. Tons of women don’t have orgasms from just sex, totally normal. Just find what works for you! 

Post # 21
702 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

mermaidbride79 :  I’m one of those who never was able to through intercourse. I think I read some articles it’s how you’re built and it’s really the clitoris and the distance from the entry? Not sure how accurate, I’ve always felt close but it never ever happened vaginally. :/ I feel like I’m missing out lol. 

Post # 22
1294 posts
Bumble bee

It can take years to get to the point to be able to have an orgasm with another person once you start having sex. I don’t have statistics but if I recall correctly most women cannot have and orgasm without clitoral stimulation. Me included. Him just sticking it on for a few minutes is not likely going  to give you an orgasm.

Does he use his toung or finder on you either at foreplay or after he has cum? Do you masturbate and do you know how you can get an orgasm? Viagra is not the solution for this, it won’t make him last him longer and therefore make you orgasm. So please don’t have him taking pills that he doesn’t need yet. 

Just take some time. Read about different positions and try them out. Use death others months and hands to explore. Get yourself a vibrator and explore yourself. It can take a few years and you learn all the time. Even one you as experienced you keep learning.

Post # 24
200 posts
Helper bee

I hate hands/fingers of any sort going down there, & absolutely can NOT “finish” from… a penis going in there…

He’s gotta take a trip down to Meowmeow Town… that’s my only advice. 

If he’s bad at it though, or apprehensive, or whatever, youll totally feel it & won’t be able to enjoy it. & then you still wont finish bc you’ll be in your head. So you both need to relax (: 

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