(Closed) Frustrated newlywed…Do any newlywed bees feel this way…we just got

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I understand why you are upset but just remember that a gift is not a requirement and you invited them because you wanted them to share your day with you not to buy you stuff!

Post # 5
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I can understand why you would be so upset. This is actually a big fear of mine lol. I know that my BF’s friends are very immature (even though they are all 28+) and I know they are lacking in the etiquette department. 

I’m just not sure there is anything you can do about it…

Post # 7
1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I ran this by my fiance, and his response was that he’s gone to a bunch of open bar weddings, gotten hammered, and used the “guests have a year to buy a gift” rule. Including several instances of overnighting a gift on day 364 🙂 I can’t promise that your husband’s friends are going to pony up, but here’s hoping!

Post # 8
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’d be super irritated too.  Hopefully they will come thru with something later but I know how mad you must be.  It really is rude even though gifts shouldn’t be expected.

Post # 9
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

oh man girl, i’d be SOOO pissed too.  no matter what anyone may say about just wanting to be a guest at the wedding and not having to provide a gift, but bottom line, they are adults and that is plain rude.

Post # 11
1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We went to a wedding last month (friend of FI’s) and he has not sent them a check. I am about to go buy a card and mail it myself. the check has been written out it’s just sitting in his wallet. UGH!

Post # 12
5992 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

the friends that came, got plastered and no gift – are the majority guys because i just feel guys are a bit clueless about these things?

oh, and i know you shouldnt expect a gift, but i think its rude not to give one as well


Post # 13
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think this is a fault of guys.  Most of the guys at our wedding (my husband’s friends) forgot to get us gifts or just didn’t at all.  I guess I expect this of guys.  But one of his Groomsmen got us a Wii Fit and Wii Resort, so he totally makes up for all the ones that didn’t! 🙂

That does suck they drank (or wasted) $4K worth of alcohol.  I guess the lesson learned is not to even offer a $25 shot!  Yikes!  What in the heck were they drinking?!?

Post # 15
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with you!  I would be annoyed with the situation and with no card to recognize the MARRIAGE that took place!  It bothers me when people attend weddings as an excuse to drink and eat for free.  Celebrate with the birde and groom, not beyond them.

Just take a minute and think about ALL the other people who care about you and your husband.  And don’t let these minor things get you down 🙂



Post # 16
420 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i don’t think you’re being a snob at all, i’d be perfectly happy recieving no gift but just getting to spend that TIME w/wondeful family or friends and having them share my special day.  but it sounds like these guys weren’t there to spend precious time w/you,  more like to take advantage of the open bar and get wasted for free.  i’m so sorry dear!

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