(Closed) Frustrated newlywed…Do any newlywed bees feel this way…we just got

posted 12 years ago in Married Life
Post # 18
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was thinking – is there anyway you can try and get some of the cost reimbursed for the shots?  I feel that the bartender used bad judgement serving those – if anything, he/she should’ve checked with you or the site coordinator to make sure that it was ok.  You could at least ask – the worst they can say is no.

Post # 19
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Oh no!  I can’t believe they drank so much — that’s really too bad, regardless of whether or not you got gifts from them, the caterer saying they hadn’t seen anything like it before is a pretty big deal.  Who knows, maybe they’ll all feel embarassed and make it up to you guys!

Post # 20
1580 posts
Bumble bee

Were they aware that it was pay by consumption? If I hear “open bar” my first thought is that it is “open” for whatever you want, and I would assume it is a flat fee, so I better drink up, and get whatever I want (right or wrong, this is just what I associate with “open bar”).

Post # 21
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Actually, I’d contact the venue about this–it sounds like they overserved if the guys were plastered, and any bartender worth his/her salt knows not to do that! They lacked good judgment and you deserve at least a partial refund.

PS – is that a Kyle Parker jersey? Or am I crazy? 🙂

Post # 22
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

We had the same thing happen. Mostly from his single fraternity brothers. It even bothered my fiance!

Post # 23
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

I was really surprised by people who at least didn’t get us cards.  Maybe people feel weird doing just a card, or maybe it was bc I was clueless when I was younger, but I don’t know…honestly, I have a very different opinion now that I am married, but I can admit I’ve gone to a wedding w/o a present before!  <hides>  that was when I was much younger, but even then I usually bought one..since I’ve been out of college, I only did one wedding w/ no card/gift, and I was probably being a b* bc the bride wouldn’t let me bring a date (that she knew) after I’d already purchased a plane ticket to her wedding out of state…(her reception was at a park w/ no assigned seating and a fajita buffet w/ tons of leftovers)…regardless, from now on I swear to at least send a card no matter what  hehe

Post # 24
246 posts
Helper bee

Just because you haven’t received gifts from certain people YET, doesn’t mean that you won’t.  We’ve been married about 6 weeks now and gifts keep coming in…. some people forgot to take them to the wedding, some people wanted to give to us in person, some people just procrastinated in shopping/sending a check, etc.  Give it time!

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