- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
The SO is in the doghouse with me, big time and for several reasons. Granted, he didn’t mean to hurt my feelings but boy oh boy did he.
Work has been less than great for me until lately. Yesterday I got a raise and was told that once we get busy enough they will hire someone else and I’ll be in a supervisory role. Sweet!
I was on Cloud 9 and decided to wait to tell my SO until I got home. I tell him and all I get is “Congrats. Do you want to celebrate” in a mono-tone voice and no smile. He hardly looked up from his iPhone where he was playing Words With Friends. No hug, no kiss, not even a smile. I was really confused and pretty hurt. I asked him if everything was ok and he said yes and asked why. I told him he was acting funny and he shrugged and said sorry. I went and laid back down on the couch while he was on his lap top trying to get into his online Spanish course (that he didn’t tell me he was taking). He told me he wanted to hang out with me but had to figure the class mess out. I got mad and he came and apologized saying that he was stressed out over his current job, plus having to take Spanish classes over the summer.
This is another spot where he pissed me off. He just finished his 1st year teaching high school at a small school east of us. From day one they have asked way too much of him. He was hired 1 day before school started last year, was asked to accounce football games, was a basketball coach and now they want him to teach Spanish. He teaches English and the only way he can teach Spanish is to go back and take college credits. We had an argument over this earlier this year and instead of telling me he had to take the classes, he hid it from me. Bad plan. The school district won’t pay a dime of the school and he needs 24 credits for the endorsement – he currently only has 6.
He paid for the online Spanish course at the community college where it was supposed to be cheaper. $1,300 for one class!!!! What???!??! That’s ridiculous. Anyway, he can’t find the class he registered for. He calls and finds out that he was supposed to log-in on the first day (2 weeks ago) otherwise he would be dropped from the class. Now he has to tell his boss that he can’t take the online course this summer. They did refund his money, but I still don’t agree with the school district paying nothing since they asked him to teach the subject.
So after finding that out, he tells me it’s sort of good because now -without giving it away – he can enact his “plan” for a proposal sooner. Now I’m totally confused. He starts asking what 14er I want to climb on 8/8 and if we should stay at his parent’s house. I think the original plan was to propose on this hike but that was before the Spanish class cost an arm and a leg. I would have been so heart-broken if we went on the hike and he didn’t ask.
I haven’t been waiting as long as some of you ladies. But the fact is that he set out the expectation that we’d be getting engaged soon both with me and my family. He asked my dad in February and we went ring shopping in March. Don’t drag this out anymore, please!!!
I understand part of the career thing. He wants to keep his job and he thinks that by furthering his career, he’s providing for me and putting me first. Unfortunately, it doesn’t make me feel that way.
I’ll give him credit. He’s spent the last 12 hours trying to make it up to me. He made me dinner, did the dishes and gave me a back rub. Then this morning the dishes that had been drying that he NEVER puts away, were all put away.
If you took the time to read this, THANK YOU! It’s more of a rant and I just needed to get it off my chest. Thanks ladies!