(Closed) Frustrated over something we can’t control

posted 7 years ago in Military
Post # 3
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am not military nor is my Fiance.  I can say that I cannot stand waiting on other people to get things done, I would rather do them myself.  So, if I was having to wait on approval for wedding leave it would drive me nuts as well.  Keep a good attitude, maybe it will get approved this week!

Post # 4
2790 posts
Sugar bee

I think I would be having a serious heart attack if I were you. So sorry thi sis happening!

Post # 6
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know this probably isn’t what you want to hear, but it might not be his first shirt’s fault. It is entirely possible that the command’s schedule is still in flux enough that he isn’t ALLOWED to approve leave that far in advance.

Still, it sucks. I was right where you were this past summer. ::hugs:: Keep positive and make sure that your Dear Fiance is keeping his eye on where the paperwork is. It wouldn’t hurt to have him fill out a second form and NOT submit it just on the off chance it gets ‘misplaced’ last minute.

I find the most annoying thing about the military is my lack of understanding.

While I firmly believe that no one can fully comprehend the military until they join, the best way to reach some level of understanding is to educate yourself continuously. I am sure that in the time that your Dear Fiance has been in you have gotten a crash course or two in what it means to be military spouse. Whether you have or have not, keep reading up. Learn as much as you can about what its your DF’s MOS does, what the base and military has to offer, learn about everything even if you think you already know it or it will never affect you. In my personal experience I have found that learning about the way the military handles x, y, and z helped me understand why they do a, b, and c the way they do.

Best of luck to you and your future husband!!

Post # 7
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We didn’t get “official” approval until 3 or 4 weeks before the wedding. Darling Husband had to go check on his paperwork regularly (to make sure it didn’t get lost) and wait until somebody higher up decided it was okay. They can’t allow everybody to have leave at one time, so we planned around block leave to make it easier. I don’t know if they start at the bottom and go up or the top and go down, though, but there was a priority system in place on his base.

Post # 8
22 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hi! I’m active duty military and I work on the admin side of things (I’m the person who turns in people like your FI’s paperwork), and usually…almost always…leave can not be approved anywhere before 30 days prior to the start date. So I know it’s causing you a whole panic attack now…but don’t think of it as them not caring about your special day, there’s just a time limit on the paperwok. Hope that helps some!

Post # 10
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m getting married March 12th and FI’s leave dates haven’t been approved yet. Granted, he’s deploying and block leave starts like the day before the wedding so it won’t be an issue. The army doesn’t do well with planning. 2 months in advance is like a year in advance in civilian time lol.

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