Post # 1
As of today, my Fiance and I are 59 days out from our wedding and he still doesn’t have approved leave for our wedding. He keeps bugging his first sergent about how important this leave request is but it’s getting him no where. I find the most annoying thing about the military is my lack of understanding. This request has been sitting there waiting to be signed for a month now and apparently no one seems to bother with it.
My Fiance is 100% sure it will be approved, but I hate this stupid waiting game when we’re under 2 months from the wedding where we’ve already committed to almost everything we’ll need at the wedding.
Thanks for listening, anyone.
Post # 3
I am not military nor is my Fiance. I can say that I cannot stand waiting on other people to get things done, I would rather do them myself. So, if I was having to wait on approval for wedding leave it would drive me nuts as well. Keep a good attitude, maybe it will get approved this week!
Post # 4
I think I would be having a serious heart attack if I were you. So sorry thi sis happening!
Post # 5
@CantWaittillMAY:Yeah, he’s hoping on the 1st it’ll get approved but who really knows. At least I finally convinced him to just book his flight already (we’re in the habit of waiting to book it until it’s approved just in case something happens), but really, he needed to book the flight for my sanity. I mean we’ve booked the wedding for goodness sake, he can book his flight!
@MsBrooklynA: Haha, yeahhhh it kinda sucks… to say the least.
Post # 6
I know this probably isn’t what you want to hear, but it might not be his first shirt’s fault. It is entirely possible that the command’s schedule is still in flux enough that he isn’t ALLOWED to approve leave that far in advance.
Still, it sucks. I was right where you were this past summer. ::hugs:: Keep positive and make sure that your Dear Fiance is keeping his eye on where the paperwork is. It wouldn’t hurt to have him fill out a second form and NOT submit it just on the off chance it gets ‘misplaced’ last minute.
I find the most annoying thing about the military is my lack of understanding.
While I firmly believe that no one can fully comprehend the military until they join, the best way to reach some level of understanding is to educate yourself continuously. I am sure that in the time that your Dear Fiance has been in you have gotten a crash course or two in what it means to be military spouse. Whether you have or have not, keep reading up. Learn as much as you can about what its your DF’s MOS does, what the base and military has to offer, learn about everything even if you think you already know it or it will never affect you. In my personal experience I have found that learning about the way the military handles x, y, and z helped me understand why they do a, b, and c the way they do.
Best of luck to you and your future husband!!
Post # 7
We didn’t get “official” approval until 3 or 4 weeks before the wedding. Darling Husband had to go check on his paperwork regularly (to make sure it didn’t get lost) and wait until somebody higher up decided it was okay. They can’t allow everybody to have leave at one time, so we planned around block leave to make it easier. I don’t know if they start at the bottom and go up or the top and go down, though, but there was a priority system in place on his base.
Post # 8
Hi! I’m active duty military and I work on the admin side of things (I’m the person who turns in people like your FI’s paperwork), and usually…almost always…leave can not be approved anywhere before 30 days prior to the start date. So I know it’s causing you a whole panic attack now…but don’t think of it as them not caring about your special day, there’s just a time limit on the paperwok. Hope that helps some!
Post # 9
@Penguingal06:I’m sure it’s no one person’s fault, just relaying what my Fiance tells me. Honestly, I have trouble putting much effort into learning about it since both my Fiance and I are just waiting for the day he gets out. He’s not making a career of it, just putting in his time. It’s not the best approach to help me feeling better, which I understand, but it’s how it is with us.
@ejs4y8:Eesh. That would have driven me crazy! Unfortunately, we didn’t have anything like that around when we could schedule the wedding (he’s getting transferred soon after the wedding so getting time off then would be impossible) but he’s certain it works well within their schedule and he already has verbal(ish) approval. Just have to wait for the real thing.
@bri.dear:Sure, that makes sense. It’s more that he’s hearing they want to wait to approve it until February to make sure he has his leave numbers correct… which makes little sense to either of us since the math will continue to be the same regardless of which month it is. Ha.
Post # 10
I’m getting married March 12th and FI’s leave dates haven’t been approved yet. Granted, he’s deploying and block leave starts like the day before the wedding so it won’t be an issue. The army doesn’t do well with planning. 2 months in advance is like a year in advance in civilian time lol.