(Closed) Frustrated!: Planning a wedding for Feb, with no ring!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
13248 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

To be honest, I’m on your mom’s side.  I wouldn’t make plans without officially being engaged (ring not necessary, but a proposal is!).  I would tell your SO that you aren’t going to any more vendor appointments or discussing any wedding plans until there is an engagement, and stand firm on that decision. 

Post # 6
13248 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@echolove:  I’d be frustrated too, and with family illnesses, I get pushing up plans.  At the same time, I personally think you should still be engaged before planning a wedding, and it seems like you do too.  You need to tell him that this isn’t cool with you.  Heck, show him that you went to a message board for advice on this since you’re so frustrated!  Sometimes guys just don’t get it.

Post # 8
2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@echolove:  the bees say he has to put a ring on it (figuratively speaking!)

Post # 11
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Have you had any say in all of this planning (or don’t want any?) I think it is odd he is planning this wedding without you and hasn’t proposed yet. I know for me I would feel terrible if my mom said something like that, although I understand why your mom has. I would also feel terrible that I’d be moving right after getting married and not be able to tell my mom about it. How upset do you think she is going to be when she finds out? I have a really close bond with my mom, and if my Fiance had told me I couldn’t say anything I’d feel very controlled and put the kabosh to it right away, but I don’t know your relationship with you mom so that’s just my opinion.

Kudos to you for putting so much trust in your Fiance because I couldn’t have let my Darling Husband plan all of it out, but I would still be concerned and ask for an official proposal. He owes it to you to do that, he really does.



Post # 12
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I totally get where you’re coming from, I’m kind of in the same boat myself.  I would say give him until jan. 12 and only make tentative plans until then, and if by the 13th there still isn’t a ring, I would have a “come to Jesus” meeting so to speak. Other than that I got nothing for you…I feel for you, though.

Post # 15
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Omgbunnies:  haha yes

The bees and Beyonce say he has to put a ring on it.

My Fiance and I started planning a couple pieces before being officially engaged but I knew my ring was being made since we ordered it together. I also knew it’d take a little while and he promised to propose days after he got it. He did the day after he picked it up. It doesn’t sound like you have either.

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