(Closed) Frustrated – rant ahead

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh I feel you on that!  I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all of it.  It can be so frustrating!  My Fiance and I were having a conversation about finances one day, then the next day he spent $3000 on DJ equipment!  WTF!  He DJs out like.. 2 times a month?  Guys are dumb

Post # 4
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1330 posts
Bumble bee

OMG, This was my Fiance last year..he had a good chunk of money come his way so I didn’t question his actions. turns out MY fiance spent 140K last year…on crap. trips, clothes, dinners out…bills and rent0how is that even possible??!!

 

Please don’t wait and talk to him about this now. I waited because I didn’t want to question him and trust him but now I am feeling the burn because we cannot buy a house or barely afford the wedding because Fiance has 1800-2000 a month that has t ogo to credit payments/car payments

 

Its HELL.

 

 

Post # 5
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Yeah, I think you guys need to have a deeper talk other than him just blowing you off and telling you that you shouldn’t let money become an issue. B/c right now, it sounds like it’s a pretty big issue for the two of you. I think sitting him down and having a REAL conversation about money…budgeting out where all of his money goes and where all of your money goes would be a great start. 

Post # 8
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s good that you are going to talk with him about it. Money issues are huge and if you guys aren’t on the same page, it can become one of those problems that destroys relationships. 

Money management takes time to learn. Growing up, my dad always pounded those habits into us. At the time I though he was being mean and nosy. Now, I know how to manage my money. My SO was never really TAUGHT those things. So even though he knows the basics, it’s a lot harder to put into practice. He has to break bad spending habits. It drives me crazy because these skills are almost innate to me since I grew up with them. 

But we’ve had the money talks. He has admited to me that he doesn’t know how to budget but he’s like to learn. So it’s a step. But the first thing you have to do is get on the same page. There are some really good finanical courses out there if you are willing to pay a small fee. I think they are worth it! 

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