- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
So we live in a small town and have to travel at least 45 minutes to eat somewhere besides Mexican food or fast food. Oftentimes, Fiance and I travel west to the nearest city (let’s call it Point A) to eat good. Wellll, we’ve been talking about traveling 2 hours north (we’ll call it Point B) to eat at Joe’s Crab Shack, and we decided we would do that Valentine’s Day weekend when we have one day off together (tomorrow, Saturday). This plan has been set for 3 weeks.
Well, FI’s sister (who is also engaged and getting married in March, and we are both in her WP), asks FI on Monday if he can go to Point A to get fitted for his groomsman vest and tie (they’re not doing the whole suit) at noon on Saturday. Fiance tells her that he and I have plans for Saturday so we will discuss it, and she responds with, “Well all the other Groomsmen are going, why can’t yall just do your plans afterward?” Which is fine… it would have been an inconvenience for us to travel 45 min west, attend the Groomsmen fitting, then travel 2+ hours to get to Point B, eat, etc. then drive 2+ hours home… but it would have manageable.
HOWEVER, today she decides to change the time from noon to 3pm. Now that’s gonna be difficult. It’s pointless to even attempt to go to Point B when by the time they get done with the Groomsmen fitting and we get to Point B, all we have time to do is go eat then go home. We also wanted to go to this cool store they have there to purchase our centerpieces, and to look around at wedding bands. You know, we wanted to spend the whole day at Point B and enjoy each other’s company on our one day off together, eat good, shop around for our wedding, NOT BE RUSHED. And we can’t go to Point B before the fitting because I work nights and I will probably sleep from 8am til at least 11 or noon.
Now we are faced with the decision of should we just travel to Point A and go to the fitting for an hour and eat there (which is ok, but honestly we are tired of eating in that town cuz we go there often, plus with the oil boom it’s overcrowded and usually you have to wait at least an hour to be seated)… OR we could just tell FI’s sister that he’s going to have to go get fitted on his own another time. I’m just afraid that it’ll start drama with her because she can be that type of person sometimes.
Another thing I forgot to mention, Fiance just started a new job and he’s not even sure if he can take off for his sister’s wedding. He’s not actually sure if he can take off for ours! But of course if he’s faced with only taking one or the other, he’s going to choose ours. And his sister is aware of this so in a way he should probably hold off on the fitting until he’s sure he can be there. He doesn’t get his schedule until he’s done with training this upcoming week.
Plus, Fiance and I are working opposite schedules this upcoming week. We are both off tomorrow, Saturday. And he works Sunday-Wednesday 6am-6pm (daytime), while I work Wednesday-Saturday 7pm-7am (nights). So basically who knows when we’ll get to spend another whole day together.
I don’t want to be selfish, and I told Fiance to choose if he’d rather stick to our original Valentine’s Day date plan, or if he’d rather go to the Groomsmen fitting to make his sister happy. I’m just so frustrated because his family is so last minute and I can’t count how many times this has happened to us. What would y’all do in my situation???