Frustrated with busy MOH

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
6945 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

She’s too busy and hasn’t been a good friend? Or she’s too busy to help you with wedding stuff? 

As for the wedding date, why doesn’t it work? We checked with all our VIPs before booking anything to make sure they could all attend. You have to decide what’s more important…the particular date or having your best friend there standing by your side. 

Post # 3
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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kathaleenfaye :  I think we nd details. What on earth have you had to “compromise” on for her? And why doesn’t the wedding date work?

Post # 4
9130 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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kathaleenfaye :  What have you had to compromise for her?

Post # 5
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2023

Why did you ask before having a date locked in? 

Post # 6
7806 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Doesn’t work for her because she’s taking the bar exam that day or has already planned a European vacation or…was she thinking there was a yoga workshop that sounded really interesting…

Did you check with VIPs before setting a date? I know how hard it is to find a date that works for everyone–if you chose a date that you know didn’t work for her how can you really be mad at her? 

Post # 7
5013 posts
Bee Keeper

Add me into the confused people who don’t understand why, if you werent going to consider her a VIP who you check with before setting a date, you would ask her to be you Maid/Matron of Honor before setting a date.  It is just common courtesy to give  people all the information they need to make an informed decision to choose whether to accept or not.

Otherwise, it is basically you saying “Hey, friend, will be my MOH?  I have no information for you.  We haven’t picked a date or a location.  But you’re cool just holding every date open for me and making zero plans for like the next 18 months just in case, right?  And until I make up my mind, you should also save your money in case we decide on a location that requires you to travel.”

I’m sorry this is frustrating for you, but you needed to have your act together before asking her to be Maid/Matron of Honor.  She could have declined then if it conflicted.  Or the alternative is you need to make sure she is one of the VIPs you are accommodating since she is in the wedding.

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