(Closed) Frustrated with family

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@mrsgg21:  I completly understand you being upset. I was the SAME way with DS. He was HARD to sleep train and he really didnt become fully trained until 13 mths. One thing that I had to learn is that you cannot control what happens with him when he is not with you.

I’m not sure how often your parent watch him, but if she in unaware or unmindful of his schedule then you should consider not going away until he is on a  more independent schedule. I know it sucks but no one is going to take as good of care as your baby as you.

You either trust her to do what she feels is best for him of wait until he is older to leave him over night there.

Im sorry your going through this! Good luck!

Post # 4
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4234 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I read it all but I don’t really have much advice since I’m not a parent.

However…  When my cousin’s daughter was born, the first great-grandchild of the family everything revolved around her.  Everything.  But once the next great-grandchild was born.  It all relaxed.  It wasn’t “exciting” anymore, and people (aunt, cousin, etc) began getting on with their own thing when the baby was around.

But the baby did always have a quiet place to nap, even if it meant putting the baby in travel crib in whatever bedroom happened to be the furthest away from the noise.  Is this a possibility for you?

As for your mother making different arrangements, that’s out of line.  But I don’t really have advice. Sorry.

Enjoy your husbands birthday.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you need to relax a bit.  Your parents are not going “parent” how you do with their grand child.  It isn’t going to hurt that he naps once in a great while in a stroller/or carseat. If it was all the time then yeah I would be pissed. 

My son is 7 months we struggle with sleep training also.  I initially wanted him like you to nap in his crib. He is in a in home daycare and she has pack n plays for them to nap, so not a crib. I have found that if I put him in his crib he crys and crys and crys.  (We tied going that route for sleep training for naps and at night time).  Now days, and it works sooo much better is at night he starts off laying in our bed with one of us by his side, til he falls asleep then he gets moved to his crib for the night.

Naps when at home, instead of doing the struggle of him fussing and crying we have him nap in our bed. We do the same thing as we do for night time, one of us lays with him on the bed til he falls asleep then we just leave him be. He isn’t a roller around so no worries about falling off the bed and we still put him in the middle of the bed.

Bascially what I am saying, I have to agree you need to relax just a bit. As long as your child gets a nap does it really matter where he sleeps?  Yes, I get sleeping in a stoller/carseat isn’t that great for them and if it is only once in a great while but hey it is also some sleep isn’t it?

You maybe also coming off to your parents a bit defensive. If you try talking to your mom and say we think it is best blah blah blah… she might adhere to what you want better. 

 

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