- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Before I say anything else, I want to say that I have been very very patient, and have tried to be as supportive as possible while my fiance faces a tough job market with “limited” work experience and education. He has a Bachelor’s degree in Political Science, but lets face it, that is not the most sought after field right now. He has also held a steady part-time job throughout his schooling, but his experience is limited to office work (which he does not want to continue because it’s a “woman’s” job). We do not live together, do not share expenses, and we have not set a wedding date yet. Mostly because he has not found full time work…
He really wants to get into Law Enforcement, government work, etc. He has put in a total of 2 applications since May, when we graduated. He decided not to go to graduate school because he’d have to take on more debt than he was comfortable with. I on the other hand have gone on to graduate school and maintained my part time job. I’ve even applied for and interviewed with an organization who offered me a job when I finish school in May. I’m set up to move to another state in July! Fiance on the other hand has waited and waited for a job to fall in his lap. He has not said if he will be moving with me because he feels that there are “no jobs” where I will be moving (KY). He refused to contact the places that he applied with when I suggested that it may help. He refused to put in another application until he heard from the first job.
I know that these are not the best job-hunting tactics. I want so badly to help him find work, and believe me… I know it’s not my place to do the hunt for him. I know that I need to let him do this on his own. I am not THAT person who has to have control of everything.
It’s just hard to see him so upset and disheartened, when honestly I know he could be doing more. I want him to be happy, and self-sufficient. I’m just frustrated that I can’t help him and that he isn’t doing more to help himself. I want us to be able to live together… It’s just frustrating that I’m doing all this and I feel like he is giving nothing.