(Closed) Frustrated with junior bridesmaids

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow. this totally sucks. I have delt with similar problems with bridesmaids not wanting to pay or wanting different things. They were mad about me telling them all to wear silver shoes.

So I was wishy washy in the beginning and then I thought about it… It’s my wedding. And for whatever reason they are being stubburn, or hard to deal with. That’s not going to be my problem. I decided to calm down, give it some time. And contact them once I thought about it well and talked to others about it. I spoke my mind firmly but never in a rude way or by calling them out. I just said specifically what I wanted them to wear. When you give people too much room, they will just run with it. Trust me. Its so much easier to just tell them what to wear.

Who knows why those moms are giving you a hard time. Maybe they are unhappy with their own marriage or life. You never know what people are going through.

Try to be understanding, but be firm. Thats my best advice. It is your wedding at the end of the day. Not theirs. Dont show that you are upset by them, it may fuel them to keep acting that way. Just be brave with this tough situation! And stick to your guns!!

Good luck!!

Post # 4
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hell no to the tiaras and mismatched dresses.  

This is ridiculous!

Post # 5
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you need to sit down with them in person and explain what you want. It’s your wedding. And hell no to the tiara.

Post # 6
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you need to lay the law down. Call them and tell them no tiaras, and if they can’t get the right dresses by a certain date then you have to move with your wedding plans and they can’t be a part of the wedding party. Harsh but it what needs to be done, this girls should not be causing this amount of stress and making choices for your wedding!

Post # 7
16 posts
  • Wedding: March 2012

Hi Bee,

From reading the above I completely feel your pain. I also decided to have a junior bridesmaid. I thought at the time that it would be easier then deciding between friends so I choose my sister and the 12 year old who will be turning 13 soon for an easier life. Well I’m in Ireland and she is in the US but I still thought as I’m ordering the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress from US that it would be ok. Well Her Mom is been so unhelpful. She keeps on saying that the Junior Bridesmaid or Best Man size will change and it’s too soon to order the dresses. I said what about ordering a size up. Have got no reply to this. All the mom said is you must be getting anxious at the stage. Of course I am. It takes 12 to 16 weeks for dresses to arrive and I want to have it before xmas. Don’t want to go through all the horror stories of dresses not arriving on time. Her Mom hasn’t even told me what size she is now so can’t even figure out what size will need to be ordered. Can anyone advise how much will a girl change who will turn 13 in about 4 months. I think I will just go ahead and order my sisters dress and If it comes to it I will just have one BM! I just get the feeling they don’t really care.

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