Post # 1
I am so stressed right now and just screamed bloody murder at my dog. I feel guilty about it but also highly stressed out by her behavior lately. It is one thing after another with her.
She is a five year old Pomeranian. She has SEVERE separation anxiety which has gotten me almost kicked out of multiple apartments. I have paid hundreds of dollars on trainers to learn techniques to deal with the problem and have tried everything in the book – even medication doesn’t work on her. She follows me around the house nonstop. I have to leave her alone to go to work and pay to have a dogwalker come take her out, which has helped somewhat with her nonstop barking when she is alone, but it is leaving me broke and when I come home at night I can’t leave the house for fear she will bark and upset the neighbors who are home at that time. I am literally a prisoner in my house from the moment I get home.
Her other behavior has changed lately too. She has had a huge increase in accidents in the house. She was fully potty trained and only had accidents when she wasn’t taken out every 7-8 hours or so. But lately, she will pee every 3-4 hours and in the house. My entire apartment smells like dog piss. I don’t know where it is coming from, I’ve tried to wash the floors, but it smells and it is making me sick. It has smelled this way for days. She seems to be drinking more and also eating a lot more. She constantly wants more and more food. She begs, follows me, and scratches at her bowl even when it has her dry food in there (she wants her wet food which I try to limit) or she wants my food. Vet can’t find anything wrong with her…
She used to sleep through the night with me in bed and lately, every night, wakes up every few hours to jump off the bed, scratch doors and walls, wander around, and pee. I can’t sleep because she is constantly waking up and doing this. This, combined with the stench of urine in my apartment, and the fact I am prisoner in my own home because of her barking due to separation anxiety, are making me depressed and angry. I SCREAMED so loud at her today. I felt bad but I feel powerless. I am so upset and depressed right now. I don’t want to get rid of her, I love her, but I don’t know what to do. She is making my life impossible. 🙁
Post # 3
OMG! We were having the same problems! I started to freak out and Darling Husband and I have been talking about getting rid of her. However, I started googling things and found out that the peeing in the house might be from bladder stones. We had her x-ray’d and found out that she has these and there are things to prevent it. You might want to have it checked.
As for the other stuff I have no solutions. I do feel your pain and I know how frustrating this can be. I’m so sorry.
Post # 4
Hash she been checked out for health problems ( like hard core blood tests /scans)?
What age was she when you got her and where did you get her from?
The dog is getting worse do to your reaction energy of frustration , anger and anxiety.
She needs some serious exercise and rules, boundaries and limitations.
i’m so sorry you are feeling this way and going through this , but I do believe there is hope. I know she is a little dog, but she is still dog and will need a lot of exercise and time to ensure the bathroom problem gets fixed ( unless of course this is medical like a UTI or neurological issue)
Post # 5
This could make your problems doubly bad or could help them, but what about getting another pet so she isn’t alone? Then they can be attached to each other?
Or call the dog whisperer?
Post # 6
I hate to say it, but it might be time to let her go. Imagine how happy she would be with a family who was always home, or someone with a big yard. Her behavior seems to be taking over your entire life. (((hug))) I’m sorry you’re going through this. Maybe you should talk to someone with a Pomeranian rescue organization and see how easy it would be to place her somewhere better suited to her.
Post # 7
@thehoneybear: I second the dog whisperer- If you haven’t watched his show, I highly recommend obtaining the dvds or youtube videos. I’ve seen several really good sever anxiety episodes and you would be surprised how fast things can turn around with some commitment.
Post # 8
How many hours a day are you walking and training her?
Apart from your dog walker (I am also a dog walker) your dog should be getting a GOOD walk each morning (1/2 to one hour)that includes obedience training,and one in the evening. She should not be allowed on furniture or on your bed.
I do not even allow dogs in my kitchen.
Does she have her own spot? (crate?) She should be in there when you aren’t at home and left with a kong or other puzzle toy.
Soiling your home and demand barking, etc. means the dogs needs aren’t being met somehow. You just need to figure out what that is.
She also needs a full medical exam, as the increased eating and drinking could mean a thyroid issue or diabetes. She may also have a bladder infection.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood
My boyfriend has a cat who would eat a lot, drink a lot, and pee in the house. They found out he had a major thyroid problem. Now he gets medicine every day (three times a day, actually) and things have gotten better for the most part.
As for the separation anxiety, I third calling the Dog Whisperer or maybe getting another dog. Or, if you absolutely don’t want to do that (and I could easily understand why), maybe you should get rid of her.
Post # 11
I’d definitely go to a vet to see about the peeing thing. That’s not normal and sounds medical. As for the separation anxiety… that’s a common problem with Poms. They’re a high strung super social breed. Something like doggy daycare would probably be better than just dog walking. Maybe you could find someone local who is home during the day to watch her?
I don’t know… usually I’m never an advocate of giving dogs up but it kind of sounds like your lifestyle just doesn’t fit with having a dog. If you work a full time job and like to go out at night… you probably just shouldn’t have a dog. They’re social creatures, they need more interaction than that. Please don’t give her up to a shelter though. At least find a breed-specific rescue to take her in and place her with a family that has enough time for her.
Post # 12
Thanks for the advice, all.
@CorgiTales: Well, I don’t like to “go out at night”. I just can’t even go out so much as to the gym or grocery store or run errands. I am completely trapped with her in the house. Unfortunately, I do work full time and she does need to be alone from 8-5. But, I think most people work FT unless you are retired or work from home. I don’t want to give her away and really do not consider it an option. I am just venting frustrations mostly.
@MissOtter31: I would be willing to consider another dog, but not in my current place. If Fiance and I move to a bigger place, it would be a possibility, but I don’t think that is going to happen soon.
As for all the dog whisperer comments, I have worked with a trainer locally who is considered to be a “dog whisperer” and she gave me some good tips. She was VERY expensive though and I could only afford one session.
@SandyDollHair: She does have a crate she goes in during the day but does not like to be shut into. And at night she wants to follow me around and not be in it. I can try to walk her more and focus on regular obediance training. I will take her back to the vet she has an appointment in September………to see again if they can find any physical reason for this behavior or if it is just mental.
Post # 13
Can the crate be made a positive place with food and perhaps a towel or sheet over the top to limit her space and cause her brain to chill out? Make it like a game and a reward to go be in it? Feed her meals in it, etc.
Sorry If you already have done these things, but I know it helps for some.
I second the doggy daycare for interaction and companionship both human and dog!
Post # 14
@Eva Peron: Yup, I have done all those things. Has a towel over it and she always gets treats when she goes in there. I think she uses it when alone but would rather be with me when I am at home. Trust me, I would love to do doggie daycare but a) there isn’t one near me and b) even if I took her to the far away ones, it costs $25 a day which adds up to $500 extra a month that I just don’t have 🙁
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood
@maggierose: I totally understand. Maybe getting another dog would be a bad idea because this new dog could pick up on your current dog’s bad behavior. Then you would have two badly behaved dogs.
Post # 16
How long ago did you bring her to the vet that they couldn’t find anything wrong with her? Have you had her brought to the vet lately? While it is possible she is learning new bad behaviors left and right, it is also possible she has some health issues that are causing her behaviors. We had a dog that started having accidents who was potty trained and then would stop and it would go away then a month later would start doing it again. Turns out it was because she gets bladder infections, so aside from taking her to the vet regularly, when she has accidents we know she needs to be seen. I think the bathroom problems are a sign something is up. Especially if it is waking her up at night. It could be causing her to want different food too because her stomach could be off or she just feels off in general and doesn’t know what to ask for to feel better. Maybe try a different vet? How frustrated you must feel. . 🙁
In terms of the separation anxiety that is harder to crack. It is great you have invested time into trying to go to training with her and give it a shot. But maybe she needs more attention than you are able to give her. I think I would first take her to the vet and have them check her out and see if she is having problems in other areas that could be addressed. If not, maybe consider re-homing her. Just make sure to maybe work with a rescue and say you will let her live with you till she gets placed. They will screen everyone to make sure that the dog will be going to the right home and not end up having to be re-homed again and again or abused. When my mother passed away I had to re-home a few of her dogs (She had four and I couldn’t keep them all sadly) and it was really hard but I worked with a rescue to make sure the people adopting the different pups knew the dog and all about their personalities and what she needed, and that they had experience with dogs. All the dogs are in wonderful homes and I get pictures all the time.. it is nice to see them get the attention and love they deserve.
Here are some things I found online to maybe discuss with your vet. .
“A dog who starts drinking water like a fish could be developing diabetes or kidney disease. You may not be able to notice the dog’s extra water consumption easily, but you should be able to pick up her increased intake by paying careful attention to what comes out the other end. She’ll be producing much larger amounts of urine and have to go outside more often. She may also start having accidents in the house.”
This article was also interesting (lists possible disorders):
If you are really determined to not re-home her maybe you can try to at least make the situation a little easier to deal with. Could you get a friend to help you and let the dog out even once a week? One less day to pay for a person to let the dog out. Could you get her litter trained and then keep her in a little gated area (maybe the kitchen) so that she doesn’t need to have someone let her out? (She is 5 so teaching her to do this could be hard but may help.) Could you keep a tv on to maybe distract her or calm her down while you are gone? Sorry if some of these are dumb suggestions, sometimes the strangest things will work. I really do think that there is something else going on in terms of the accidents though. I would be aggressive with the vets . .