Post # 1
Sorry bees, I just need to vent! I live in a townhouse condo. I have been here for 5 years. Loved the first 4 .5 years here. It is a great neighourhood, it allows dogs (I have 2), I hae a backdoor, parking right outside, 1100 sq. feet plus a finished basement. Sounds great! It was,until my new neighbours moved in. There was a senior coupld beside me, and they sold it to their son and their 2 grandchildren to live in so they could move out of their assisted living apartment. Well, they were great for the first 3 months, then the girlfriend and her 2 young boys and 3 small yappy dogs moved in. They are all constantly yelling and fighting, at all hours of the day.The dogs sit at the front door and yap at everyone who walks by. The oldest daughter has had midnight fights x2 outfront swearing and yelling. The cops have been here once for the eldest son etc. (sorry venting)
Anyways, I am at my wits end! I am not the type of person to cause a ruffle. It is nothing to call the cops over. My Fiance wants to constantly bang on the wall but I wont let him. I am so close to writing a letter to the condo board, but fell that if I do that I should have said something to them first. But how do you tell neighbours that they are annoyingly loud! I am sure that there is things that I do that annoy them so I dont want to piss them off as we cant afford to move anywhere else. If I could I would move in a heartbeat! Trust me we have looked but we just cant handle that with a wedding in 7 months.
Sorry for the vent. I would love some advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation. It is just so frustrating. (There go the dogs again! It is so loud my dogs stare at the wall and occasionally bark!)
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
I agree, it’s probably best to say something first – considering the fact that you’re a long term resident, just casually make conversation about how you have been struggling lately because of the noise levels. If they continue to carry on, THEN I would complain to your building people.
We had this issue in a London flat while we lived abroad; had quiet neighbours who gave their apartment to their 18 year old kids to use while they were studying – we had parties, cooking with the door open, smoking in the hallway, and the noise! Oh man. Anyway, it got so bad (& they didn’t give a toss about how loud they were) that we complained to the building association and it calmed things down. Good luck!
Post # 4
I would at least say something about the nightly fights. People do need to sleep and you could call the cops for ruining the enjoyment of your property if it got to that.
I would be careful about sending the cops out though. My friend did that to her upstairs neighbors and it started an all out war with them where they would basically jump up and down on the floor in the room she was in. We knew they could walk quietly because we didn’t hear them most the time but if we were in a room watching TV all of a sudden stuff started shaking! It was so immature.
Post # 5
@labluver: That sux! Do you happen to have their cell number? One thing you might want to try is texting during those moments when they’re loud asking nicely to quiet down because you’re trying to sleep. We did that with our neighbors and they were quick to apologize and quiet down. Now, the yappy dog thing, you can’t do a lot about that. Unless, they are disturbing the peace, so to speak. Check into your neighborhood ordinances. I’ve reported noisy construction workers in my neighborhood before and they stopped making noise at the break of dawn. If you can’t do that, then I’d definitely ask your condo association to help. I’m sure you pay a decent amount in monthly fees, so you might as well as for guidance. Good Luck!!
Post # 6
They are aware of our concerns of the midnight fights. My parents actually ran into the grandparents-the previous owners- and the grandmother was making comments about we must notice a difference in the neighbourhood, she hopes that they are not annoying us to much. My mom mentioned the latest fight and that I had the phone in my hand to call but they went inside. She said that even if I had called it would not have helped as they dont care. It is just frustrating….
Post # 7
I would make copies of the condo docs..usually you have “quite hours” and tape it to their front door. But I would also send something in writing to the condo association letting them know if the situation. Tell them that you would like to try to handle this on your own, but just want to make note of it. This way the neighbors can’t come back at you saying its harrassment. Also check the condo docs about the dogs, as well as with your local animal control officer. Usually if there is enough complaints and the owners do nothing the animal control officer can mandate a muzzle.
I would also tell them that the next time there is a fight outside or you can hear it outside and its after quite hours that you are calling the police and you will continue to call the police on them until they get their heads out of their asses.
Who cares if you piss then off..they are the ones being unreasonable.
Stick to your guns girl…don’t let them change the way that you have lived.
Post # 8
I also live in a condo/townhouse setup. We have a neighbor who always leaves notes in our mailbox about stuff (usually our dog barking when we are gone…which I know she exagerates about, but that’s a different story). Never ONCE has she come and knocked on our door to actually talk to us, even though I know she knows we are home (she’s kinda a stalker. Basically a bad neighbor altogether).
Which is why I would recommend calmly telling them how they’re bothering you…IN PERSON. Quite frankly, if someone can’t come tell something to my face and leaves passive-aggressive notes everywhere, I lose respect for them and won’t take their complain seriously! If this is their first time in condo living they may not realize how their noise bothers others, as they’re used to having their own “space”. Of course some people just have no common courtesy, which is when I would say to contact the condo board. You should not have to hate where you live.
ETA – That whole post makes me sound like a b*tch. I’m really not, haha 😉
Post # 9
If you’ve got a board, use it. I’d rather use my HOA for problems then try to solve them myself. I can report it anonymously, or if they do take my name, the person I’ve made a complaint against doesn’t find out. My issue with confronting people is that sometimes it leads to bigger problems (or them damaging your property).
We’ve had our share of issues and the HOA has always addressed them for us.
The yappy dog you may be out of luck, unless it’s after/before specific hours.
Post # 10
Well after I sat and listened to them scream and swear at each other for over and hour on Saturday I sent a letter off to my condo board. I was so frustrated! I felt sorry for the young kids that live there! I have not gotten a response, and dont know if I will get one, I just wanted them to be aware of the situation.
Thanks for the advice ladies! If anything, this whole thing has confirmed for my Fiance and I that we want to move asap!